My19 months old daughter is always crying, we have try everything to make her stop. Can you please help me? Do you think by yealing at her will maker her stop crying?

J_9

Don't yell at her. Just ignore her. Yelling is a terrible terrible thing to do to a child.

Look, she knows that she is getting your attention when she cries. If there is nothing wrong, diapers don't need changed, she is not hungry, etc., she is crying to get your attention.

Gently pick her up, take her to her room and put her in her bed. Tell her "When you are in a better mood, you can come out." Gently close the door and walk away.

You may have to do this a number of times before she stays in her room until she is in a better mood, but it works.

Emland

Yelling at her will only make both of you feel bad. Been there, done that.

How is her speech/communication? My daughter screamed like a banshee until we realized it was frustration. She had allergy issues due to the old house we lived in and she couldn't hear that well. Once we moved, her hearing got better, her speech improved and the screaming diminished.

bluerose

Make sure she is not hurt. My grandson cried for hours until someone finally talked his mum into taking him to hospital, he was found to have a broken leg!

tawnynkids

The only reason I did not post in agreement to above is I would not recommend to just ignore her. **Correction --I don't think she (J_9) meant ignore as in not look after her (sorry J-9, didn't mean to imply that), but I wouldn't necessarily treat this as a normal crying spell that I would ignore as in not give warrant to as I think she did mean. Only on a count of the poster said "always", she is hitting the "terrible twos" so it could be normal buuuuut I would have it checked out by a doc before not giving attention to the crying. Just me though.

Certainly NO do not yell at, shake, or try in any other physical manner to make her stop except for comforting her .

If you have made sure "everything is okay" and this has been ongoing with no seeming reason, temper tantrum etc. then you absolutely should take her to a pediatrician/family doctor to make sure there is no unseen reason for this.

J_9

Heavens I did not mean totally ignore the child, I meant ignore the behavior. If everything has been checked out by the pediatrician first.

If everything is fine and the child is healthy, you ignore the behavior.

First of all, and I may sound strange, but I don't believe in the terrible two's, I believe it can be invoked by the parents who do nothing about behavior.

Bad behavior must be addressed immediately and sternly. The child must know that it is not good to act this way.

Now, I sound strong, and I sound harsh, but I am by far one of the most loving parents there are. But I have my boundaries and I stick by them. discipline can, and at my house is, given with love. I have never raised my voice to my children, nor will I, unless there is a dangerous situation present.

startover22

Let it be known that the more J_9 posts, I fall in love with her parenting tactics. I really respect you for being a good mom. So hard to do. As for many of us, consistency is very hard. It will solve many problems but we still refuse to be consistent. I will be starting today, how about you guys? When i say no, I mean it, when i say i love you I mean it. Sound good anyone????

J_9

Sounds great to me!!! I have always remained consistent, even when I have to go in my bedroom, cover my mouth will a pillow and scream my head off. Then I come out nice and cheerful and go about my business.

Start, thank you for the wonderful complements, you are a most gracious person if I say so myself!!!! But, I am not perfect, and it took quite a bit of trial and error to be the mother I am today. It was hard with my first one and I was only 22. I look back and wish I had the knowledge then that I have now.

tawnynkids

I second...or third that!

startover22

I am a mother of four, first one was bor 9 days before my 20th birthday and the last was born when I was 28. I sure do notice a big difference in today and yesterday. I just started on my consistency issue! You guys are great. See you some time in the near future.....Good luck Mothers.....