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hi my daughter is 16 months and shes been hitting alot she will hit me if i tell her no or take something away from her that she shouldnt have i have never hit her i know her father hasnt because im always there and i just want to kno is it something that kids just do at this age or does she have to see it somewhere?
It's common. She's acting out, she's not getting what she wants and hitting, to her, is the only option.
Have you tried giving her a time out, or taking away a favorite toy. Just because it's common, doesn't mean it's acceptable, it's time to put a stop to this behavior before it gets out of hand.
Now remember the rule of thumb for time out's, 1 minute for every year of the child age. Two minute time out would not be inappropriate for your child. Put her in a spot like a chair in the kitchen, tell her she's in time out, hit the timer on your microwave for 2 minutes. When the time is done, ask her if she knows why she had a time out, if she doesn't, then tell her. Time out is usually done after at least one warning to stop the behavior.
It's common. She's acting out, she's not getting what she wants and hitting, to her, is the only option.
Have you tried giving her a time out, or taking away a favorite toy. Just because it's common, doesn't mean it's acceptable, it's time to put a stop to this behavior before it gets out of hand.
Now remember the rule of thumb for time out's, 1 minute for every year of the child age. Two minute time out would not be inappropriate for your child. Put her in a spot like a chair in the kitchen, tell her she's in time out, hit the timer on your microwave for 2 minutes. When the time is done, ask her if she knows why she had a time out, if she doesn't, then tell her. Time out is usually done after at least one warning to stop the behavior.
Good luck.
yeah the only problem witht that is she doesnt talk much... i thought about the time out thing but i figured she wouldnt understand yet i tell her not to hit but then she hits me or tellin her not to hit...and i dont want to pop her on the but or nething yet because shes not going to understand that just yet but thats my last resort....and if i take a toy away she wont get that either...so i guess i will just keep telling her no until she can talk and understand wht im sayin....but thankyou
Trust me, she doesn't have to talk to be able to understand. I'm sure she understands way more than you know. The time out will work, just talk in simple sentences when you send her for her time out.
Example: "No hitting, hitting is bad, if you hit, you get time out."
If she hits again then put her in time out, tell her in simple terms why she's there. "You hit, hitting is not okay, so you are having a time out."
When she's done her time out then ask her to say sorry and then give her a hug.
Always go down to her level when you are talking to her, or punishing her.
My son was 1 when he started biting, we did time outs and they worked. He didn't talk until he was almost 3.
Children understand simple commands, like "no" long before they can express themselves. She likely can understand much of what you are saying to her. Keep it simple. She'll learn to tell you "no" if she doesn't already.
Trust me, she doesn't have to talk to be able to understand. I'm sure she understands way more than you know. The time out will work, just talk in simple sentences when you send her for her time out.
Example: "No hitting, hitting is bad, if you hit, you get time out."
If she hits again then put her in time out, tell her in simple terms why she's there. "You hit, hitting is not okay, so you are having a time out."
When she's done her time out then ask her to say sorry and then give her a hug.
Always go down to her level when you are talking to her, or punishing her.
My son was 1 when he started biting, we did time outs and they worked. He didn't talk until he was almost 3.
Good luck.
oh really i would have never thought that i will try that tomorrow beacause im sure she goin to hit.....but im not to sure if shes goin to stay in the corner...how do i do that?
Repetitive motion. Keep putting her back into the corner until the two minutes is up. Better to just gently lead her back and give her a stern look than talk about it. Don't get mad and don't give in. You are the one in charge. You get to make and enforce the rules.
Repetitive motion. Keep putting her back into the corner until the two minutes is up. Better to just gently lead her back and give her a stern look than talk about it. Don't get mad and don't give in. You are the one in charge. You get to make and enforce the rules.
Just remember to be consistent, don't give up, if she hits then it's time out, no matter where you are, even in a store. If you aren't consistent then it won't work.
Just remember to be consistent, don't give up, if she hits then it's time out, no matter where you are, even in a store. If you aren't consistent then it won't work.
Let us know how it goes.
ok i will def let you know...but just incase that doesnt work are there any other suggestions for me
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