on may 23 of this year my daughter, then was eight months old, was taken from me because someone called DCF on my husband and me. my daughter had a bruise on the butt and they took her. they tried to blame it on my husband, he was arrested and then the charges of child abuse were dropped. now we are going through a case plan that involves me taking domestic volience eval, parenting classes, substance abuse eval, and we both have supervised visitation. he has the same except anger management. i'm in the navy and i'm in florida both my husband's family and my family both live in mississippi so she has to remain in a foster home. i have been doing this case plan for almost 5 months i've done the domestic violence eval, and have been doing parenting classes for 7 weeks i have the substance abuse eval tomarrow.
the thing is they keep telling me to leave my husband and i will get her back. so if his charges were dropped due to lack of evidence then why should he leave. he has nowhere to go unless he goes back to mississippi. then he wouldn't be able to do his case plan.
we are doing everything they ask us to do and they said if we did that then we would get her back. they said we would get unsupervised visits once we did a little of our case plan and that hasn't happened.
need advise do i leave or stick it out with him i know he didn't hurt her, they are asking me to leave my husband, i know my daughter is more important but he loves her and it would crush him.
i know she had a bruise on her butt and they said it looked like a hand and in florida there isnt a law against corporal punishment as long as there arent any bruises. we dont do drugs we hardly even drink. he doesnt beat me or my daughter.
im not sure who called, i live in an apartment complex and we have a few neighbors we dont get along with but they wouldnt say who called, if i had to guess i would say it was an ex-friend of mine. we had a fight (not physically) and we havent talked since then which was about a week before she was taken.
im not sure how the bruise got there i dont know if the babysitter did it or not. we told them to ask her and they acted like it wasnt a possibility. she had been sick with the stomash viras and had gotten a real bad yeast rash, which i had taken her to the doctor for the week before, she had bleed on her bottom because of it the doctor said it was because of the rash.
Well, if your husband didn't hurt her then definitely don't leave him. How did she get the bruise in question? It sounds like you need a good lawyer who can go to bat for you and take on DCF.
im not sure who called, i live in an apartment complex and we have a few neighbors we dont get along with but they wouldnt say who called, if i had to guess i would say it was an ex-friend of mine. we had a fight (not physically) and we havent talked since then which was about a week before she was taken.
im not sure how the bruise got there i dont know if the babysitter did it or not. we told them to ask her and they acted like it wasnt a possibility. she had been sick with the stomash viras and had gotten a real bad yeast rash, which i had taken her to the doctor for the week before, she had bleed on her bottom because of it the doctor said it was because of the rash.
in florida there isnt a law against corporal punishment as long as there arent any bruises.
This statment just confuses me. I keep coming back to it again and again.
I am not accusing the OP of corporal punishment, but if there was not spaking going on then why make this statement? This is an 8 month old child in question.
It takes a good amount of force to put a bruise on ANYONE. You and your husband should be aware of your child's needs, they come first and foremost before your own.
Keep cooperating with the court's system; if anyone called the authorities on you they have the option to be anonymous, so its possible that you may never find out who notified them, and remember that if you didn't do anything wrong, you should have nothing to worry about, right? Good luck to you.
on may 23 of this year my daughter, then was eight months old, was taken from me because someone called DCF on my husband and me. my daughter had a bruise on the butt and they took her. they tried to blame it on my husband, he was arrested and then the charges of child abuse were dropped. now we are going through a case plan that involves me taking domestic volience eval, parenting classes, substance abuse eval, and we both have supervised visitation. he has the same except anger management. i'm in the navy and i'm in florida both my husband's family and my family both live in mississippi so she has to remain in a foster home. i have been doing this case plan for almost 5 months i've done the domestic violence eval, and have been doing parenting classes for 7 weeks i have the substance abuse eval tomarrow.
the thing is they keep telling me to leave my husband and i will get her back. so if his charges were dropped due to lack of evidence then why should he leave. he has nowhere to go unless he goes back to mississippi. then he wouldn't be able to do his case plan.
we are doing everything they ask us to do and they said if we did that then we would get her back. they said we would get unsupervised visits once we did a little of our case plan and that hasn't happened.
need advise do i leave or stick it out with him i know he didn't hurt her, they are asking me to leave my husband, i know my daughter is more important but he loves her and it would crush him.
It doesn't seem like youre telling us the whole story. Even DCF wouldn't take a child away and make you go through all this for a bruise on her butt. My son used to fall a lot when he was learning to walk and he got plenty of bruises, and no one, not even his pediatrician ever questioned it. They know, baby's get bruises. There has to be more to the story. There has to be something going on for someone to call DCF, and for them to actually take her away.
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