No it does not add up and no there was no "tiff". maybe I am dumb but I never saw it coming. I knew something was wrong but he never wanted to talk about it and he was always to busy to see me. When I pushed him I was told to.. well.... to go away.
He bought a car ( tony sopano car) and he told me to make an appt.to see him. he was always referring to himself as Tony. There was no big fight.. when he got enough money to hire a clerk I stayed home. He paid me back , but our deal was I owned 2 precent of the business.. it was not in writing. I dont care about the money. i dont have any but that is ok. My son is rich now so rich that i have no idea how much he has, but he has big house .. servants.. ect.
There was no fight .. there was no tiff.. I was blindsided.. I lost my mother right before the final thing.... I was crying and he asked me if i wanted him to take care of it.. i told him yes.. thinking that he would just talk to funeral home... she died july 4th at 12:05 am .. july 4th at 4 pm she was put into the ground with nothing ever done and no one told.. I was left with all the phone calls. he also paid for it.. i never meant for him to do that. I wanted a church service as my mom had lots of friends and a lovely church that she loved,, but i said nothing. I have never said anything mean to him and I have asked him why and the only answer is that i am crazy and that i am a piece of Sh** he slammed out of my house after taking the door knob off the front door.. he didnt have a key and i didnt have an extra one so he wanted the door rekeyed. I have been very sick and i took a lot of drugs ( as precribed) he wanted me to give him some.. not the first time... but i didnt have any extra.
That could not have mad him mad because he buys pain pills all the time .. it isnt like he had to have mine. when i told him no he just went kinnda crazy and left .. that was the last of it.
And no drugs are not making him act this way... he has taken pain pills for years and years.
He hates me and i have no idea why. i took care of him and his wife and kids when they were starting out. I had a good job and they needed help. i have always been there for him.
i do not know what else to say. I never did anything to him and there is no good reason for him to act this way.
I am not offended but i am so hurt that i cant take it any more.. I am seeing a doc this coming wednesday. i belong to a good church but it isnt enough. My family consists of 2 sons. my youngest son is disabled and my oldest son hates me my oldest son is an atheist an we have no friends in common any more . he has all new friends
I have never written on a board before, but before i called the doc i was really really lost.
I am raising my youngest sons little girl.. she is 8 and i love her but i know i need help.. this hurting is too much.
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| Originally Posted by Depressed in MO You may be offended by what some of these people are saying, but surely you can understand why. You say that you had a wonderful relationship with your son for many years. You helped him and then you said he got rich and changed on you.
There has to be a reason, some kind of "tiff" between the both of you, maybe? Something had to happen for him to make these Drastic (and these are extremely drastic) changes between the both of you. You don't have a wonderful loving relationship for 42 years and then just up and change it completely one day for no reason at all. |
No i dont understand...... if I knew what happened i would try to fix it. As far as I am concerned i never saw it coming.. not even in hindsight.
it seems one day things were a little strained and then he was gone,, home phone blocked no answer on his cell . i refuse to call work. my one granddaughter called me a year ago and told me to leave her dad alone i upset him.. i helped raise this child. the youngest is ADH and she does not talk to anyone . i will never ask her. kids shouldnt be used this way. AND she knows i love her and my phone is not blocked. both kids have been told over and over that i love then.. before the phone was blocked but i never said a word about there father and myself. i am not like that.
The wife I always got along well with but she is very unstable with mental illness. perhaps she had something to do with this, but i do not know.