I caught my 7 yr. old daughter kissing with another little girl help I'm really freaked out because I don't trust her anymore with anybody I don't know if theres counseling for this type of behavior please someone HELP?
She's SEVEN, and has probably seen a bajillion Disney movies that show people kissing, not to mention whatever else she's seen (like.....prime time tv) that has kissing happen.
Instead of freaking out, you could try ASKING her why she was kissing her friend. It may just be that both of them wondered what a kiss was like, and hey--they could BOTH find out by kissing each other!
Either way--YOU need counseling more than she does if you see this as that big of a deal.
Domt worry about it, it doesnt mean she is going to be a lasbian when she is older (not that it should matter if she was!) its just curiousity. She probably has no concept of sexualtiy at the moment.
What is wrong with people they are just children!!! Curiosity is very normal. When Adults make a big deal and freak out is when children start having problems. Talk to her on her level and ask her what they were doing, and just explain to her that a kiss on the cheek is ok, but kissing is for adults not children. My girls did that at age 6 and 7 both are married and one is expecting her first baby. Did I freak out and punish them NO. A 7 year old does not understand sexuality.
listen to what everyone has said.
if you freak out on her now it will totally send her the wrong message. she needs to be able to feel comfortable talking to you. if she can't even talk to you about what is just normal curiosity now she'll never be able to talk to you about all of the really important things she's bound to go through later.
Most girls I know have done this, My first kiss was a girl because I was too nervous to kiss a boy, my best friend said she'd teach me... I think I was 9 or so. It wasn't really sexual, it was a matter of trust, if I did it wrong, I figured she'd tell me instead of embarassing myself when I kissed my first boy. In hindsight she couldn't kiss either it was pretty awful but she is straight, I'm married with a houseful of kids... really not a big deal.
She is just learning about that part of her self, it's more of a consern when and if she starts to get curious about sex. You may consider looking up the operah site and finding out what the psychologist says on there about when children need the birds and the bees talk.
Even if she ends up liking girls not guys whats wrong with that? At least she wouldn't get pregnant in high school...
So be cool, and just keep an eye on her to make sure she doesn't move into other territory.
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