I've had it. I'm ready to send my 7 year old to boot camp or the freakin Jerry Springer show. She is always stealing things from me and everyone else and lying all the time. I do not trust her. I tried to give her a chance on the trust thing and she failed. She takes things from her class mates at school as well. I have to follow her into every room that she goes into including the bathroom because the minute my back is turned she is stealing something or teasing her little sister. I cant leave her alone in a room by herself for 1 second. Not even her own room as she tears the curtains down or damages the furniture. She enjoys being misbehaved too because she gets this smirk kind of "haha" look on her face when she gets caught. And before anyone starts jumping down my throat about parenting skills, I have done everything I know to do. Ive disciplined, Ive taken her to counseling, Ive taken parenting classes. Everything. She has faced consequences for her actions and still does not seem to have grasped cause and effect. I don't know what else to do.

mouzer

I would suggest contacting a bootcamp. but when i was little i would always have a smirk on my face, but i didnt think it was funny. but this case is serious. if 7 is too young for bootcamp, maybe try some kind of dicipline camp. this child need to shape up.

MISSIBAYBE

Have you taken her to see a therapist yet? That should be the first thing to do. She might just have something bottling up inside her that you don't know about. Or maybe she just has a problem like Wynona Ryder. Boot camp should be your last resort!

nymphetamine

I stated that I have taken her to counseling. It has not worked. The bad thing is the way she is acting is the exact way that her father acted when he was a child and when we were married so I wonder if that type of behavior isn't hereditary.

Fr_Chuck

Those new stun guns come to mind off the top of my head, but on a serious note Most boot camps are for older 12 plus age groups, but you may want to talk to juv case worker ( and I can't really beleive I am saying this) they may have a recommendation on a "shock" therapy where they lock her down for a week or something in detention.

This is about my last resort idea, it sounds like you are doing everything else

lostandnowfound

Well look I am no angel....but I see one big clue to her possible behavior issues...
Your screen name nymphetamine....well being a parent...and understanding your screen name....is there any chance there was a time when you were not around maybe finding some personel time to do something ....?
Like I understand what your going thorugh....where do you think this behavior is coming from...children only know things the learn or see...

JBKfuntimes

Wasn't there a reality show on TV awhile back that talked about this? I believe that Fr. Chuck is spot on about being for older kids. Is there a background of mental illness in your family?

J_9

Our community has a program where children like this can do community service if the parent so desires. They start at around age 6 or 7, I believe. Projects like Habitat for Humanity, and stuff like that.

Whenever the kiddo acts up they have to do x amount of hours of community service.

nymphetamine

Not in myside. no. As I mentioned she behaves exactly like her father did. He was always making promises to do better by us but it always turned out to be a lie. She does the exact same thing. He stole from everyone including his family and friends. She also does the same. See I had taken the children and left because their father left us for some other woman saying he was in love with her and they were going to get married and that she would be their new mom. Well some how his family found out where I was, attacked me and kidnapped the children. The police did not get there in time to stop them. I went looking for them and they had left the house they were living in and vanished so I had no idea at all where my children were for several months. The rest of the family acted as if they didn't know either. Before the kidnapping had take place I had filed for custody and divorce. Well when the court date came we all went into the court room and the judge who happened to be female gave my ex husband this sort of secretive" We know something they don't" sort of wink and fluttering her eye lashes making googly eyes at him. At first I thought I was just being paranoid, but other people spoke up and said they had noticed her winking at him and that something fishy was going on, but since she was a judge not much could have been done. So unsurprisingly he ended up with temporary custody. The judge claimed that it was because of the fact that they were in his possession at the time of the hearing. Well one day his girl friend's son was taken to the doctor by his grandma because he kept saying his private hurt him and the little boy had bruises on it. He told the doctor that my ex husband had hit him on his penis because he was bad. So then my children and their children were placed with social services. Social services did not even know about me till the little boy's grandma said something to them so they contacted me. I went through all this stuff to get my children back. I had to take a hair strand drug test, prove that I wasn't mentally unstable, have supervised visits with the social service so they could see how I handled the children and finally I ended up with final custody of my children. So my thought is she probably picked up a lot of bad behavior from her father while living with him. My family is trying to help me with improving her behavior. It just seems like she doesn't care. Counseling has already been tried, but she makes up so many lies and stories about things that happened or she changes the subject. There have been times where she has started to tell me things about her father and his girlfriend and then stopped and refused to continue and pretended like she was saying something else when I asked her about it. I thought that with her not being around him for nearly 2 years now would have taken that bad behavior away but I guess not.

stunned1

HI, I have done quite a lot of personal research into this type of childhood behavior, and wheras I do not know your daughter, by what you have discribed, I would say she has either Oppositional Defiance Disorder, or (less likely)Conduct disorder. PLEASE dont give up on seeking help and having her diagnosed - and try looking up these disorders and see what you think. Oh, and good luck. Its a hell of a thing to live with!!!