i was just wondering if i am able n ready to look after a baby at the age of 16, ive been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years now and we thinking of trying for a baby but i would really like some advise and other peoples opinion! thanks

Curlyben

- YES !!!

Can you support yourself AND another human being financially, I very much doubt it !!!!!

staceyminx

ok, do u think girls my age are able to look after a baby or do u think id do a hopless job?

staceyminx

ok, do u think girls my age are able to look after a baby or do u think id do a hopless job? sorry im not very good at these posts, ive just signed up for it

Curlyben

You have way too much growing up to do BEFORE you even consider such a MASSIVE life changing decision !!!

Are you financially stable ?
Does your boyfriend have a job, house, car etc ??
Or are you simply going to scrounge off the state and dump the child on your parents ?!?!?!

staceyminx

i was hoping for feedback telling id be useless because realistically,

i am 18 years old n i have 2 children, my fiance is a self employed carpenter and is bring home plenty on money to financially suport us all, i will be looking for a job also as soon as my daughter start school, we have a car and a van for my boyfriends work, we live in our own house with a morgage, i have never parmed the girls off to any1 n have only been baby sat about 3-4 times, they both doing really well and some people say they are very advanced! my health vistior and midwives have allways praised me on how much of a good job i have done with both my girls, one is 17 months n my new addition is 9 weeks old!

the reason i added this post is because ive seen posts about girls getting pregnant young n things ppl say to them about them not couping n being real cruel n rude to them, i just wanted to prove that not every1 is incabable of looking after another life, now i am a mother i understand what i put my mother through saying i am pregnant at 16 and i agree people should think long n hard about the choises they have n if they can look after another life but i also think that teenagers who can do it n have done a great job without social funds deserve some credit and people shouldnt think because we're young we cant do anything!

thanks

brittanymommy08

She's right. I'm 19. with two an 1 year old and due any day. I'm making it but it's hard.
just stay a kid as long as you can

staceyminx

thank you, it is hard but im having the best time of my life with my 2 lil girls! i know some teenagers cant coup with kids n shouldnt have them but older people still put any teenager down for having kids just because they're younger! but i would like every1 to know that some teenagers can do a better job than those older! thanks

redhed35

so this post was to prove what?

if your saying that teenage pregnancy is ok and its a fairy story,well thats just a crock of crap.

the majority of teenage pregnancies end in disaster for all parties...i will grant you there are rare exceptions,however to say its all going to be ok is beyond irresponable for any teenager to read that.

i had two children as a teenager,and i for one can say it was NOT ok,it was NOT fun and everything did NOT turn out rosy.

ScottGem

So your first post was a fake to try and prove a point? Frankly, we don't like getting played with here.

For every teenager who has a child and makes a success of it, there are many more who don't. Teenagers who wind up on welfare, kids who grow up with absentee or deadbeat dads, parents who resent their kids for the change they caused in their lives.

So in answer to your original question, we can't answer whether you or any 16 year old are able to "look after a baby". There are too many other factors involved. Family support, the father's ability to financially support the new family, your maturity level, and many more.

But if you are asking whether its a good idea for teenagers to have children, the answer is a resounding and definite NO! The odds are too stacked against it working out well for all concerned.

I like Brittany's advice very much; "just stay a kid as long as you can"