Why is my period light after losing my virginity?

Originally Posted by Kitkat22

Where is your mother and father when this is going on?

Originally Posted by itscrissy1

My parants are divorced. I never see my mother. My dad knows I have sex but he don't like the fact that I am.

Originally Posted by Jake2008

If you have had two periods since you chose to have unprotected sex, and both periods have been more like spotting, or very light as you said, you could indeed, be pregnant. That's what happens when you have unprotected sex. The test could be a false negative.

The first thing you need to do is get to your Doctor, and have a pregnancy test done. If you aren't pregnant, there is still something happening that has caused your normal period flow, to almost stop, and that needs to be addressed as well.

You ask, "Can anyone help me out?", and the fact is, you have already been helped out with some very good, point blank advice, about the dangerous choices you have made, and as well, how to change your life around.

When you start having sex, no matter what form of birth control you use, you risk, by choice, getting pregnant. The only surefire way not to get pregnant at age 13 (or any age) is to not engage in sex. It really is that simple. Your anatomy is no different than the anatomy of the female species since the beginning of time.

What you do when you choose to be sexually active, is risk losing every dream you've ever had for your future. While your non sexually active friends concentrate on school, and go on to college, you may very well find yourself instead, in a delivery room in a hospital screaming your head off while a baby pushes its way through you into the world. And that is the easy part. Raising a child at your age requires the help and expense of many, including anyone who pays taxes. If you think you can have it all, you can't. Why risk hopes and dreams by choosing to have sex.

More importantly, why bring a child into the world, when you are legally a child still yourself. You think that, from what I've read, that losing your virginity is a ho-hum sort of event, and even though you are new to having sex, you had sex three times, and left yourself wide open for pregnancy on one of those three times. Each time you have sex, you risk pregnancy even with protection. Without protection is like holding a loaded gun to your head and playing chicken.

I think you can stop. If you aren't pregnant, make a promise to yourself to not have sex until you are at least five years older than you are right now. Choose your partners carefullly when you are ready, and don't settle for bragging rights to having a boyfriend you can wrap around your little finger, or for a boyfriend who is mentally unstable as yours is, when he cuts himself because he's upset. Do you see what I mean by this being more of a risk than you realize? Think of the path you are on, and the people you are on that path with, and do you really want a lifelong commitment at age 13 to an immature boy, and a baby?

Turn this around. IF you aren't pregnant, write out a list of the things dream about accomplishing. Open your world to possibilities, instead of shutting them out. What do you want for your life, what do you want to be when you go to study at college. How are you going to get there, save money, take on a part time job, etc. What are you willing to do for yourself, while it is still (hopefully) a wide open world of possibilities where nothing and nobody can stop you from reaching any goal.

If you have such a list, I'd like to see it. Let's see if there isn't more to you than what you have said so far, including my suspicion that you probably agree with some, if not all, that has been said to you so far.

Originally Posted by itscrissy1

This is ggod advice. Think you so much. I have choosed my future of going to college, and starting photography. I'm very good actully. I have a friend that wants me to take pics of her.I DO agree that I have grown up what too fast but I am getting raised wrong and I been trough alot
With a addiction to self harm and drug use. I havet done self harm sence June and I haven't done drugs in along time.
The only reason my boyfriend did self harm was because I broke up with him.
It wasn't that bad. It looked like cat scratches when I see them.He is not immature. But yet not fully mature. And I'm not ether.

Originally Posted by Kitkat22

I hope you do get good grades and you attend College and get away from the way you are living now.

Originally Posted by Kitkat22

You need to be removed from his Custody if he allows you at thirteen to have sex and do drugs.

Originally Posted by itscrissy1

You don't understand my living situation.
Im not moving back in with my mom.
She is a horribale slut that used guys.
Im better of living with my dad.
I get my own money, I get fed healthier,
He is finacely stable. He has to pay 1300 dollers
A month for rent to my gma and still manages to pay for things
Me and my little brother needs.

Originally Posted by Kitkat22

OK ..I understand. You are so young and you need guidance. The fact that he knows you have sex and doesn't stop it makes me wonder why he doesn't. You have a chance to be anything you want to be. Leave the boys alone young lady!

If you don't you'll have a child before you're ready and then all the things you planned for yourself will be gone. Sex at thirteen years old is inconceivable to me. You have set yourself to be used by every boy who knows this. Stop the messing around with any boy and concentrate on your dreams.