sexually active teen

axpradabtch524 · #1 Jan 20, 2003, 09:16 PM

I am trying to find some help for my younger sister. She is only 15 and has become sexually active. Having had an abortion at 17 i am scared that she may end up like me. I dont know how I can help her get birth control, can I give her mine? Or will it show up in tests? I dont want her to have to tell our parents unless she gets pregnent and even then can she get an abortion with out having to tell them? She is so sure that she is in love with this boy, who is also 15, and I cant seem to get anything through her head. Fortunatly she trusts me enough to come to me with this, but im not really she how to go about helping her as much as i want to. She uses condoms but so did i. How can I get her confidential help for a minor? We live in florida if that changes anything. If anyone can help me PLEASE do! or anyone who has been through this. Thank you!!!
-cYn

dutchess_of_grunge · Apr 1, 2003, 02:54 AM

hi there
i know 15 year olds, and i knoe they think they are in total love and lust of each other. the best advice i can give you is to be supportive and understanding tell her that look its great you love this boy and your fine with that but hey lets go see some health clinics or our doctor maybe get the pill just to be safe.. you have to trust her be a sister not a mum..

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desii · Apr 3, 2004, 02:17 PM

hi
im 14 yr old male and i thinks its good that your helping your sister. i dont think it would be safe for u too give her your own birth control... u can buy her condoms or some sort of birth control like that. i think its important to keep her well eduacted. i cant force her to stop being sexually active but u can tell her the conciquense and help her out with birth control... i mean i rather have her being sexually active and knowing that she is useing condoms that u bought her than rather knowing she might be doing it with out any protection... if u wanna talk u kan i/m me on aim sn" A LHL LLVLL A LD

caelamccloud · Apr 13, 2004, 04:40 AM

Where are your parents in all of this? If it's a possibility, bring them into it. Do they know about your situation? Knowing that may open their eyes about the possiblities
with their younger daughter. As far as birth control goes, if you can get the parental permission, I recommend the Depo Provera shot. It is an injection given four times a year in the arm or hip and has a very high effectivness rate. Hope this helped.

lightsurprise · Jun 26, 2004, 08:36 AM

I was once in her shoes, and telling your parents is only going to make it worse, there are clinics out there where you dont need your parents and it is confidental. One of them is called WIC_Weman, infant and children, they can get her the birthcontrol that she needs and educate her on somethings too. WIC's is well known in the USA. Also, support your sister, she came to you and that is great, that doesn't mean she is going to listen to you though. I know I didn't when I was that age. Also abortions, if you have too many it will make it so when you are ready for kids you cant have any. Get some info. on abortions and then sit down with your sister and tell her, show her pictures, do what ever it takes to get her to understand how much she is hurting her body. Dont let her do the Depo shot either, everyone I know that has been on that including myself it really messes with you. Makes your attitude suck, so find something that really works for her. My email is [email address]

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iloveLf221 · Aug 9, 2007, 07:20 PM

hi,
It's good that you are helping your sister, but she NEEDS to get birth control, her own. And you shouldn't wait until she gets pregnant. Abortion, well, those are just my own beliefs, but I think that you should help your sister get birth control, even if you won't tell your parents.

mikezapwnzor · Aug 10, 2007, 02:30 AM

I would just find a clinic that you could take her to that would talk to her about it and give her the birth control she needs. If she won't agree to it I would not give her your birth control, but maybe give her condoms for her "boyfriend" to use. I think abortion isn't a good option, being that it can hurt you in so many ways, but if that is your (or her) last resort then use it, unless you want to have a newborn on your hands.

teasy · Oct 31, 2007, 02:51 AM

yes indeed, birth control pill. ive been on it since i turned 13 and would never turn back. when i have sex I use a condom still espically if he isnt one of my friends, but taking the pill everey day makes me feel good that I know it is working. the shot and patch are a good idea but not having to do it everyday takes the rythm away and makes you more prone to forget



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