my son is 23 and i am very concerned about the path his life is taking. he is in trouble with the law for traffic violations he has not taking care of and is looking at doing up to 90 days in jail. i have tried to help him financially and it seems when i have done this he just revert back to his bad behavior. i know i am an enabler. i am trying to see this in myself and trying to back away and let him make his own decisions and to get himself out of these situations. i feel so much guilt, in that i have not been the mother i should have been. i am a single parent and have not had men over to my home and ignored my children. i have always tried to be there for them and participate with them in activities they have been interested in. what i am asking is help on how to step back and let him learn from his behavior and change the course his life is taking, but to also be supportive of him and to let him know that i do love him and care for him. i want the best for my children, but in putting so much effort in helping my son, i am causing my daughter to become resentful of him and possibly of me. i need guidance in learning to let go.