Cats can't get along

bwire · #1 Apr 27, 2009, 03:54 AM

I was the owner of 3 cats. I recently had to put my 14 yr old cat to sleep. It was terrible and my other 2 cats were so lonely for him, so i purchased another cat.he is 3 yrs old and real timid. My cats will not accept him. He is real scared. I have done everything. I introduced them very slowly, but to no avail. They chase the new cat, hiss at him, and everything. He hides all day. I need help....

RickJ · Apr 27, 2009, 05:05 AM

That's typical in my experience.

My prediction is that in a few months they'll get along better.

I just went through the same thing 6 months ago.

bwire · Apr 27, 2009, 07:15 AM

I surely hope so, because it is very frustrating. my ccats are very spoiled, and I think this new cat has also seen some abuse, becuse he has had 3 homes in three yrs and is very timid. I hope with my love and affection I can bring him around. he really is a nice cat, and that also might be the reason they are having this problem. Anyway, i saved him from being put to sleep.

bwire · Apr 27, 2009, 07:16 AM

Thanks RickJ

RickJ · Apr 27, 2009, 07:28 AM

haha, ALL cats are spoiled. They like their space and they DON'T (at least initially) like "intruders".

I've had multiple cats for 40+ years and run into this same thing every time one of them dies.

Let them do their thing and don't try too hard to make them like each other.

And one other thing: Make sure the older cat gets a bit of extra loving while s/he is getting used to the new one.

bwire · Apr 27, 2009, 09:18 AM

they surely do get alot of love now. I know how important that is, not only in a setting without stress, but more important now. They lost their buddy, and now have a new invader. thanks rickj

morgaine300 · Apr 30, 2009, 01:44 AM

I agree with Rick. Don't try to "make" them like each other. They may never. But hopefully they'll slowly learn to get along. (Maybe some day the timid one will be chasing the other two. LOL.)

Do you feel comfortable leaving them alone together? I never worry about hissing, chasing, swatting, even if a swat turns into a scratch. Leave them to work it out for themselves. And don't forget part of this could be the older cats' adjustment to losing one. Try not to change anything for them. The only thing I would worry about is if it's bad enough that one of them could get seriously hurt.

Let the new cat hide if he wants. Just make sure he's getting food and water and has a little box he's comfortable getting to. And of course, your attention.

Even if they never totally get along, the new one should eventually adjust enough to at least tolerate living in the same household and not hiding all the time. Though you might need to permanently have a separate litter box. I've had cats all my life and have never had a serious issue, though I have had some that never totally got along.

bwire · Apr 30, 2009, 05:40 AM

thank god they seem to be doing better, at least alittle bit. He is a really sweet cat, but oh boy has he been abused. It is very obvious he hates men. He is so afraid of my hubby. But that seems to be getting better also. I just don't know nor can i understand abusing an animal. Tnks for your help

shazamataz · Apr 30, 2009, 05:48 AM

Glad things have gotten a little better for you

bwire · Apr 30, 2009, 08:34 AM

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