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  • Jan 10, 2011, 04:31 PM
    ullfallinlove22
    My cat won't stop humping me, how do I get him to stop?
    I would say he is about 2 years. He will be all sweet, he will love on you, lay on your lap, then his pupils will get really big, he will stand up, start biting the top of my wrist, wrap his arms around my arms like he's hugging it, then starts humping my arm with his back legs. I try to push him off, I try shaking my arm, and it doesn't work. He will do it to anybody that spends more than a hour sitting in my room. How can I get him to stop?
  • Jan 10, 2011, 04:32 PM
    Wondergirl

    Has he been neutered?
  • Jan 10, 2011, 04:52 PM
    Wondergirl

    Cats don't "hump."

    What the cat is doing is pretending someone's arm is prey (a mouse, for instance). The cat is "attacking" the arm and then "subduing" it so he can "kill" it to "eat" it. Kicking it with his back legs is part of the subduing action.

    We have a stuffed candy cane cat toy (about the length of a forearm) that is filled with catnip. The cats love to "attack" it and try to "subdue" it just like your cat does with your arm.

    Visit a large store that sells cat food and equipment. Look for a similar, forearm-sized toy filled with catnip. When your cat goes after your arm, substitute the catnip toy. (Small catnip mice might work, but not as well.)

    If you can't find a forearm-length toy, you can make your own by buying loose catnip and sewing it up inside a felt tube. Maybe your mom or a woman you know who sews can help.

    When a cat tussles with a catnip toy, the aroma of the catnip is released and makes the cat happy. Our cats nap after "fighting" with their catnip toys.
  • Jan 10, 2011, 05:11 PM
    ullfallinlove22
    Comment on Wondergirl's post
    No he is not neutered
  • Jan 10, 2011, 05:14 PM
    Wondergirl

    Definitely get him neutered. Male cats, once they mature, will usually start spraying urine to mark their territory. (I had one unneutered male cat years ago who did not spray, but he was rare.) Your cat will live longer too, if he's been neutered, and will stay healthy longer.
  • Jan 10, 2011, 05:16 PM
    ullfallinlove22
    Comment on Wondergirl's post
    He has a scratching post that has catnip on it. He sometimes does it after he is high from the cat nip.
  • Jan 10, 2011, 05:17 PM
    ullfallinlove22
    Comment on Wondergirl's post
    Yea I plan on getting him neutered.
  • Jan 10, 2011, 05:20 PM
    Wondergirl

    Cats don't need an excuse (like being "high" on catnip) to go after your arm like it's prey ("food").

    His behavior is all part of "I'm a fierce attack-cat!" mentality that almost all cats (even females) have. Cat mothers teach their kittens how to do this early on.
  • Jan 10, 2011, 05:22 PM
    Wondergirl

    Please get him neutered soon. I'm surprised he hasn't been spraying. I'd hate to think you'd have to get rid of him because he's just being a cat. He doesn't deserve that.
  • Jan 10, 2011, 06:11 PM
    ullfallinlove22
    Comment on Wondergirl's post
    Oh I'm not going to get rid of him, he's a sweetheart when he's not in his moods lol.
  • Jan 10, 2011, 06:13 PM
    Wondergirl

    Well, as a cat, he will be in that "mood" fairly often, so you'd better look for or make a substitute for your arm. Otherwise, when he does that to your arm, don't resist, just go limp. If you struggle and try to get away, you will be playing into his hunting instinct, and he will clamp on even tighter and start biting.

    To him and his cat imagination, your arm is a wild creature that he wants for dinner.
  • Jan 10, 2011, 06:23 PM
    ullfallinlove22
    Comment on Wondergirl's post
    Lol yea people tell me to just let him do it.
  • Jan 10, 2011, 06:33 PM
    Wondergirl

    No, don't let him do it.

    As soon as he starts, go limp and stay limp. He will give up ("my prey must be dead already -- darn"), especially if you divert him somehow with your other hand (maybe wad up some paper and toss it across the room so he can chase it). Or if someone else is there, ask him to call the cat or do something to interrupt the cat's hunting plan.
  • Jan 16, 2011, 07:04 PM
    nikkif.
    Well my cat try's to hump me... he doesn't think I'm prey... he bites my wrist or ankle then hangs on and mounts... its the same way they act with a female in heat... they bite the scruff to subdue, then wrap the front legs around to hold then step over arch their backs before penetration... when I shake by boy (12 month neutered kitten) he immediately licks his genitals... so it is not a prey instinct but a mating instinct... I have 3 other male cats that never do this... we had our kitten desexed at 21 weeks which is much older than the other 3... it is NOT prey related but mating related... and I don't know how to stop it either. The vet said that he has a lot of male sex hormone in his system and it may not stop... I hope it does, because we're getting a female kitten soon and I don't want her being partially raped by our other kitten... how gross!
  • Jan 16, 2011, 07:13 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by nikkif. View Post
    Well my cat try's to hump me......he doesnt think im prey.........he bitei dont want her being partially raped by our other kitten..........how gross!

    Cats don't hump humans.

    There's a simple solution. Get this cat neutered, and be sure to get the new one fixed too. End of problem.
  • Jan 18, 2011, 09:53 PM
    ullfallinlove22
    Comment on nikkif.'s post
    Lol that is what I thought. It is totally akward.
  • Jan 20, 2011, 12:32 PM
    shazamataz

    I hate to disagree with an expert but no, it has nothing to do with prey drive.

    Just as with dogs, cats 'hump' anything they see as a prospective partner or to show dominance.
    Given his age and the fact he hasn't been neutered it could go either way. If he is still doing it after being neutered then we can assume dominance.

    When your cat gives you a clue as to what he is a about to do (watch for the signs) quickly place him on the floor and ignore him.
    If you are petting him and he starts kneeding heavily and getting a bit too close, again, put him on the floor and ignore him.
  • Jan 27, 2011, 01:01 AM
    nikkif.
    Comment on Wondergirl's post
    The cat is neutered, he was done at 20 weeks he's now almost a year old... all my cats are desexed I'm a responsible owner, and ummmmm, yes they do try, I know they can't actually, but they try. Mine does it when he's been given lots of affection...
  • Feb 20, 2011, 06:34 PM
    Yassie
    My cat does this too, he is not attacking prey... unless of course this turns them on because he gets an erection. I have a female cat... he doesn't bother her.
  • Feb 27, 2011, 02:35 PM
    gwendoll
    I'd like to agree with those who believe that cats hump their favorite humans! I have had two male cats who do this. I did buy the first a pet stuffie to get his thrills with. The reason it seems to me that he is horny is because his penis is erect. His behavior looks just like mating behavior to me. I do agree that giving them a toy to do this on is good. I don't mind the biting actually. It's funny. But the stuffie really helped my other cat.

    Last night, on the other hand, my cat was doing the same sort of biting, without the hip gyrations. He was very hungry. When ignored him, he bit and held onto the top of my head. Ouch! My other male doesn't do this.

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