Sounds like your ECM is failing. When this happens, it prevents the main relay from working. Perform the K-Test to confirm this:
The K-Test: Remove the MAP Sensor connector and turn the ignition switch to ON (Position II). Using a multimeter, check for 5 volts going between the MAP Sensor connector's reference wire (+) and ground. As you look at the connector, this is the socket on the right. Really press the black test lead into a cleaned main ECM ground on the thermostat housing. If the voltage is low, it’s probably indicating ECM failure. Most failed ECMs will record a fraction of a volt. To me, the K-Test is simple, elegant, and accurate.
O'Reilly Auto Parts sells remanufactured ECMs, with a lifetime warranty, for around $275--Honda wants over $1,000 for only a 1-year warranty. Ensure the replacement is an exact part number match.
Here's how to replace it yourself:
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