okay so heres the deal, im 14 and my mom let me get my belly button pierced 2 years ago... i personally think piercings are a good way to express your self.. i would like a tongue piercing and a tatoo maybe a nose piercing just a stud tho... i will wait until im older for my nose n my tatoo but right now im asking my mom if i can get my tongue she said she will think about it but she really doesnt want to let me do it.. she said i dont want to feel like im putting a whole thru my own daughter even tho its my choice n i want it... does any one have any suggestions to convince my mom?? =)

jaynen76

When I was 15 I just went ahead and did it. Now, I'm not saying that you should do that, but what I am saying is that it wasn't that big of a deal when I did it. Of course, that was even before the clear tongue rings were popular, so I really couldn't even hide it. I would ask her if you guys could go out to breakfast and talk. When she asks why, say "I just have something really important that I want to talk to you about." When you get to breakfast, just have normal talk (whatever that is for you and your mom), and after you order then begin to tell her: "you know mom, I know we've talked about me getting my tongue pierced and it's really something that I want to do....." Now, you're going to surprise her with a list of all of the "good things" or reasons you want to get it pierced AND a list of all the "bad things" or reasons why she might not want you to do it. After giving her the list, say "I know that you only want the best for me, so why don't you tell me what it is that concerns YOU, with me getting my tongue pierced, maybe it's something I didn't consider."

Now, let's be realistic. Obviously you've never done this before, so you want to be as natural as possible, so use your own words and really stick with the emotion of how much it means to you to get it done opposed to trying to act like an adult.

Parajr

sorry to say that no sensible parent is going to agree with this. May be you should reconsider. If wanted to do so many stupid things with I was your age now I say thank God that my parents didn't allow me to do it. Think about it before you do it. To answer your question I would say that there is no way to convince your parents into allowing you to have this done.

jaynen76

So, every parent who allows their children to pierce their tongue under 18 is not sensible? I believe a statement like that is not only offensive to those that would and have, but is not "sensible." Further, she mentioned she already has her belly pierced, wouldn't that classify as "not sensible" by your definition? That was really not a very nice thing to say, considering there are literally hundreds of thousands of parents who let their children pierce things despite the fact that their not 18.

Which, of course, I always ask, what's the difference between 17 and 18 again outside of the artificial legal divider our country has established, which we leave room for legislation to allow "minors" to petition themselves as legal adults. So, just why is something so trivial and impermanent so insensible?

squackmaster

I was just wondering...what would be on the list of "good things", for a 14 year old to get her tongue pierced?

jaynen76

Lol... good point.... well, self-expression would be one. I'm sure if I really took the time to think about it, I could come up with something that sounded like a relatively intelligent arguement as to why mom should say yes.

sexiibabii

thankss jaynen.. i was thinking about getting it with out my mother knowing because one of my friends did that and its been months her mom doesnt no... the way she hide it is when she is around her mom she takes the balls out..&& by the way i kinda dont need to think about it i know that i want it and worse comes to worse i can take it out its not like its permanent andd yess a good reason iss juss as simple as self expresiion and i havve been thinking about it for a whillee.. thanks guyss

babz888

jus go get it done i was 11 when i got my belly button done and i gota a tattoo n tongue piercing when i was 14 all behind my mums back ...if ya do it behind her back she'll get over it soon enough! shes ur mam she'll always love u n its not like shes goina kick u out or nefing! lol jus go 4 it ...its sore btw but worth it xox

tigerfeather

Wow, what terrible advice.

If your mom won't let you get it done, waiting a while won't kill you. And you want to be careful what you do, because tongue piercings can cause serious problems. Tooth chipping is common from the balls, and I know of one person who lost all sense of taste because the piercer hit a vein.

Also, some employers won't let you wear them at work.

brandy681

You are MUCH too young to get a tattoo! I have to say that parents have to consent piercings, tattoos, etc because children are uncapable of making decisions on there own. Because you may change your mind later on and the thought changes as you age. Do you understand? The way you think changes.. You may still want piercings, tattoos later on but especially tattoos at that young of an age is not good at all. I would wait untill you are old enough to make your on decisions and + this way you will be happy that you did it the right way.


I have a guy friend who made his own tattoos at a young age.. I think mostly because a lot of his friends were doing it, etc but the homeade tattoo that he made looked very trashy. Can you live with the same tattoo for life?? A lot of adults look for months before deciding on a proper tattoo and a design that is unique and reflects their own personality. In any occassion you have a LONG life ahead of you to decide on tattoos, piercings, etc. Do you get bored? If so keep yourself busy because eventually the piercings and tattoos will run out and you wont have nothing elso to do to be creative and you may become bored. At least you have something to look foward to if you wait, instead of going ahead and getting it done. This could be a mistake that you regret for life because people wont hire people with tattos and piercings. Some do but even resteraunts will make you cover them up and take piercings out, even if they do hire you which is doubtfull. People will look at you differently and you may realize what a mistake you made, at least wait a little while.