tongue piercing.how do i convince my mom

sexiibabii · Mar 25, 2007, 04:16 PM

okay so heres the deal, im 14 and my mom let me get my belly button pierced 2 years ago... i personally think piercings are a good way to express your self.. i would like a tongue piercing and a tatoo maybe a nose piercing just a stud tho... i will wait until im older for my nose n my tatoo but right now im asking my mom if i can get my tongue she said she will think about it but she really doesnt want to let me do it.. she said i dont want to feel like im putting a whole thru my own daughter even tho its my choice n i want it... does any one have any suggestions to convince my mom?? =)

j_troubadour · May 13, 2008, 01:14 PM

just going and getting it done isn't a good idea. I'm a middle school youth pastor and my 14 year old girls change their mind as often as the wind changes. Tattoos and piercings are a commitment. I'm married and a youth pastor but I also have 3 tattoos and do plan on more. But for each one of my tattoos I thought about the design for at least a year and I consulted my husband before I got my last one. At least with a tongue piercing you can take it out but they don't always heal. My older brother can still stick things through his tongue and he took out his piercing over 5 years ago. Please just think about it. Make a deal with your Mom. If you still want to do it when you're 16 then ask her to take you. Take the time to talk to your Mom and let her tell you why she doesn't want you to do it. Make sure she knows you're considering her opinion. Honesty is best and maybe the two of you can compromise.

sandalman · May 14, 2008, 06:16 PM

Being a dad of four it would hurt me very bad if one of my children came home with a tongue ring and then said well I have it can i keep it. That is not a puppy you are talking about getting you are changing your looks altogether. What if something goes wrong. It could happen. Respect your parents decision. I have told my children that they can not have these in my house. And that is the end of the discussion.

vicki baby · May 24, 2008, 02:20 PM

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Originally Posted by jaynen76

Lol... good point.... well, self-expression would be one. I'm sure if I really took the time to think about it, I could come up with something that sounded like a relatively intelligent arguement as to why mom should say yes.

any more good points other than self expression and the fact that you want it done ?
i really want it done but my mam said after geting my belly pirced there is no more

ra_chel · Jul 17, 2008, 08:55 PM

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Originally Posted by sexiibabii

okay so heres the deal, im 14 and my mom let me get my belly button pierced 2 years ago... i personally think piercings are a good way to express your self.. i would like a tongue piercing and a tatoo maybe a nose piercing just a stud tho... i will wait until im older for my nose n my tatoo but right now im asking my mom if i can get my tongue she said she will think about it but she really doesnt want to let me do it.. she said i dont want to feel like im putting a whole thru my own daughter even tho its my choice n i want it... does any one have any suggestions to convince my mom?? =)

hey im 14 too and i also want my nose pierced but my mom is so dumb! its my body and i can do wat i want with it! its not like its permanent i can take it out whenever i want and she's not the boss of my body. she's not letting me express my individuality and not letting me be who i wanna be i tried to tell her that there are worse things i could want its not like im smoking pot or gettin pregnant.she wants me to wait till im 15! y wait? its not fair!!! so yea i just wanted to tell u i feel ur pain

mitithic · Jul 18, 2008, 01:51 AM

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Originally Posted by ra_chel

hey im 14 too and i also want my nose pierced but my mom is so dumb! its my body and i can do wat i want with it! its not like its permanent i can take it out whenever i want and she's not the boss of my body. she's not letting me express my individuality and not letting me be who i wanna be i tried to tell her that there are worse things i could want its not like im smoking pot or gettin pregnant.she wants me to wait till im 15! y wait? its not fair!!! so yea i just wanted to tell u i feel ur pain

You only have to wait one year. Be patient. I've been wanting to get a tattoo since I was like 11. And my dad said I'll get one when I turn 16. And now I just have to wait a couple of more months.

gingerbaby · Yesterday, 09:19 PM

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Originally Posted by brandy681

You are MUCH too young to get a tattoo! I have to say that parents have to consent piercings, tattoos, etc because children are uncapable of making decisions on there own. Because you may change your mind later on and the thought changes as you age. Do you understand? The way you think changes.. You may still want piercings, tattoos later on but especially tattoos at that young of an age is not good at all. I would wait untill you are old enough to make your on decisions and + this way you will be happy that you did it the right way.

I have a guy friend who made his own tattoos at a young age.. I think mostly because a lot of his friends were doing it, etc but the homeade tattoo that he made looked very trashy. Can you live with the same tattoo for life?? A lot of adults look for months before deciding on a proper tattoo and a design that is unique and reflects their own personality. In any occassion you have a LONG life ahead of you to decide on tattoos, piercings, etc. Do you get bored? If so keep yourself busy because eventually the piercings and tattoos will run out and you wont have nothing elso to do to be creative and you may become bored. At least you have something to look foward to if you wait, instead of going ahead and getting it done. This could be a mistake that you regret for life because people wont hire people with tattos and piercings. Some do but even resteraunts will make you cover them up and take piercings out, even if they do hire you which is doubtfull. People will look at you differently and you may realize what a mistake you made, at least wait a little while.

i do believe we were talking about TOUNGE PIERCINGS, not TATTOO's.
and im pretty sure that she also said she wanted to wait to her her Tattoo.
not to mention, "because children are uncapable of making decisions on there own" that is very effecive. i am capable of making decisions on my own and im perfectly fine.

gingerbaby · Yesterday, 09:29 PM

for me it is the same way at the moment, ive read about everything i possibly could, i asked my dad, hes reason for why i cant is cause im 15, its retarded. us kids are allowed to make our own decisions about our body, dont get me wrong i love my parents and respect them but ive wanted a tounge ring sence i was like 14, and well yea... no matter what by the time im 16 im getting one on my birthday and theres nothing they can do about it. but my mom said i could get a tattoo if i kept it on my wall and looked at it everyday and liked it from like 6-8 months then i could get one. but like everyone says IT COMES OUT!!
another thing that made me mad about this is that i said i would pay for it and everything, buy everything i needed and such, i have my ears pierced 5 times and there all fine, my dad doesnt like it but my mom doesnt care. she didnt like that my aunt took me to get it done but she got over it. she was the same when i didnt go to our family doctor for birth control. but yea...some of these people have good advice but some suck alot.
anyways...my advice go with the sit down and tell her the pros and cons of it, and tell her why you want it and show her you considered what can happen then get her to tell you why she doesnt want you to do it. and then make a deal with her if possible. thats what im gonna try. so good luck to me and you. lol.



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