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Old Mar 18, 2008, 06:58 PM
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What do you do -- after.

We had been married for twenty eight years.

That's far more than half my life. We were married at twenty-two, but the years prior don't count the same cuz I didn't begin to know or grow until I was almost twenty. Seems alotta people are the same way, but won't admit it....

Not too long ago, she was a part of my every day. Taking care of her, and her needs, gave me purpose.
Even when she wasn't really all there, I could hear her advise as if it were just spoken.
I'd best cling to that.

There was a service to celebrate her life. Family came from all corners of the US...
Pictures were summonsed from the dark corners of several closets, many of those pictures long forgotten...
She didn't like her picture taken, yet I still managed to find more of them than I remember.
Even still, albums are reappearing that have been long set aside for more important things.... the day-to-day hustle, and thing's that seem more pressing.... I'll get back to those albums... some day..........
Many of the decisions that would have been difficult then, are harder now. I don't have the same confident advisor...

I would like to turn back the hands of time, to the days when I took many of those pictures, and I'd like to think for all the one's I took, candidly, I also took the time to tell her in many different ways, just how much she meant to me, through the many years.
And I hope I took the time to tell her how much I love her....

Don't you miss your chance. Tomorrow doesn't always come.

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Old Mar 22, 2008, 08:51 PM   #21  
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sending my condolences your way captain. I've been away for awhile, and didnt know. If you ever need an ear, good friends are right here waiting. remember, death is but the next great adventure... mourn her shortly, remember her always.

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Old Mar 23, 2008, 03:22 PM   #22  
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Oh Captain Rich,

You sweet and special man. My heart can almost feel the well of your sadness. You hold on to all those memories and cry those tears. For ever tear shed, is just another sign, of how much you love Dear Mrs. Captain.

I know she is with you and watching over you closer then she ever could while on earth.
It's okay to stay in the spot where you are, it truly is.

Captain, she is no longer in pain, she is not suffering, she more then likely now, just wants you to feel the peace that she is in now.

I beleive that with all my heart.

When those that I love have passed, oh how I still miss them, but through my tears, I smile knowing they are safe, and no harm, no pain can ever touch them.

The memories are gifts for a lifetime and I promise you, they will remain, and be just as special as the first time they were experienced.

Be proud of the man that you are Captain, I know I am.

My best to you always,
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CaptainRich agrees: I know your word ring true. She isn't suffering anymore. She is smiling now. All knowing how much she is loved here by all who knew her and by all who were touched by her presence: the best person I've ever met!!
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This is such a beautiful post Capn', I can tell by the poetic way you wrote this that you were truly in love. I hope that you have given yourself time to mourn, time to cry, and time to just sit and remember her. You deserve it. Your post made me do a lot of thinking of my own. I married close to the same age you and your wife did and we are still practically newlyweds; sure, I've cherished the special moments we've had together but many of the little things have gone by without a notice. Your post has reminded me to live one day at a time and to soak up each and every one of those days. With that said, thank you Capn'! Just remember, life is eternal, and love is immortal,
and death is only a horizon. You have many a shoulders here at AMHD matey, arrghh

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