its been almost a year now with out my mom. Her death was sudden and quick, i was very close to her and until this day i still have outbursts of crying because i miss her so much. is this normal? I'm on cymbalta but the pain is just still so strong, and i have had just such a bad year... is their anything i could be doing different to help me??

Morning Blaze

You could see someone specializing in grief couseling.Have you considered maybe setting up a memorial in your mothers honour or even setting up a cause in your mothers name. Some kind of foundation which can help you keep your mother alive in spirit. Something you can be proud of doing something that made you happy and gave you a reason to smile and not cry when you think of her.

KeepItSimpleStupid

You could see someone specializing in grief couseling. Under these circumstances the Cymbalta would normally be used short-term. You may need additional help. Death is a part of living. In fact, "Life, itself, is a terminal illness". That saying is original work. When other relatives die before your parents, I think your more prepared.

volta-rewind

I'm really sorry,
I understand how you feel.
Sometimes you need to take a few minutes and understand that death is a part of life. Theres really no specific way anybody on here could tell you a way to not be sad, it's all about what you make of it and it just takes time.
It's hard loving somebody so much and having them ripped out of your life so suddenly.
that's completely understandable.

Fr_Chuck

I am sorry for your loss, and each of us takes a loss differently.
But I will be somewhat frank, after a year, no it is not normal to be on medication still. While we will always miss them, after a year if you have not moved on to another level of grief there is some issue still effecting this. I would suggest some greif couseling

CFZD

My grandpa passed away 5 years ago, I didn't cry that hard until last summer I suddenly realize how much I missed him.
To a quick and sudden death, it was hard to accept, so hard that you didn't believe he was gone until after 3 years.
My guess is that different people take it different and the reaction period varies too.

lesleyanne_g

I understand exactly how you feel - i been through the exact same. My mum passed away 3 years ago and i stall am not over it, i dont think i ever will, i was very close to her and miss her so so much. People told me to see someone, but i cudnt bare talking to a stranger about it.

mamasgirl4ev

I am so sorry. I just lost my mom/bestfriend and it definately sucks. Are you close with your dad? i know for me being around the people who loved her just as much and hurt just as much somehow makes it easier. it still is so painful but talking about all of her great qualities also helps. i think everybody has to kinda figure it out on their own. so sorry again.

SkyGem

I am with you in your loss, dearheart. I know it is painful at this time because it is so new to you but know that your mother still lives in her Spiritual Body although her physical body is gone. We are all just travelers in this world and our true home is God's Spirit world. No one knows how long it will take for sadness to subside somewhat but you must continue to LIVE for her and be Strong as that is what she would undoubtedly want for you to do. Also, please know that there is no "death". It is merely the passing of the physical body to the Spiritual one that lives forever, throughout eternity. Be comforted in knowing that you mother is still with you in spirit and sees and hears you and knows how you are feeling. Pray for her soul and spirit daily as that will help elevate her into the higher realms of God's Light.
May God Bless You and Keep You Strong.