My mother was murdered when I was 19 And I am know 22 why cant I stop crying ? she was all I had and Ill never be the same with out her . what do I do

hauser5

That kind of pain may last for a lifetime. I lost my mother, though not by death, at a very young age. She simply deserted us after her affair and later marriage to another man. No matter how much time goes by, I still feel that pain. All of my brothers seem to feel it to some degree, though the younger ones seem more affected by it. Just be thankful to have had her as long as you did. I haven't had relations with my mom since I was 8. Sorry about what happened. Losing my grandparents over the last few years was hard for me too. I cried over them for a while, and still do now and then. I just think of them and try to live my life in a way that would make them proud. You are never alone, I am here for you if you want to talk.

Homegirl 50

I am sorry for your loss.
This part of the grieving process, there is no set time. Did you get some counseling after this happened? It may help you to do that. There may be groups you can join for people who have lost loved ones to violence.
I wish you well.

tjshawty

I lost my mama at 14 from heart disease! for me the pain has never went away! I could never find the mama love she gave me!

tjshawty

[quote=tjshawty]I lost my mama at 14 from heart disease! for me the pain has never went away! I could never find the mama love she gave me! I have 3 kids now and i'm terrified that i'm goin to leave them to early! My WONDERFUL MAMA was only 34 yrs old.

darhe3425

Don't stop crying until you are ready. When she comes to you, your mother, keep doing everything that comes to your mind and heart. She will help you move on, but cry when, if, and how long you need to. It really is okay.
I still cry...small, not guffaws, but quietly sometimes while driving and listening to some song I knew she liked...that is how you are honoring her. Take your time. Keep seeking support. We understand.