| That is a very sad story. I know how she must feel. I was pregnant with identical twins and they were born 3 months premature, one living and one stillborn. My son was in the NICU for 30 days before he passed away. They had a rare genetic disorder as well as twin to twin transfusion. THis was the hardest time of my LIFE. I took two months off from my job and essentially cried for two straight months. Some days I couldn't get out of bed. We had a wonderful nurse who cared for my son for those 30 days and she was a great support for me and continued to be so for the next few years. My family was great but they didn't really understand the pain. I would have to say that I am still not over it but I have come to terms with it. We went on to have two miscarriages after that. We now have two beautiful healthy children.
The best advise I can give is to be supportive, be there for her when she needs you and just listen to her. Don't offer advise, just listen. A friend of mine called me two months after I lost my boys and told me she was pregnant with twins, it just devastated me and to this day I can't seem to forgive her for not waiting a little longer to share the news. |