I knew that I was pregnant from the time I missed my period in November. I was so scared and excited at the same time. My b/f of 2 yrs who is married took me to the doctor to find out what was going on. When I left the doctor's office I was so happy to find out that I was 2 months pregnant, but because he wanted me to have an abortion and I wouldn't even consider it, he screamed at me the whole way home. He completely freaked out and told me that his wife would take everything from him if she found out about the child. I would have to be crazy to want to have this baby and he might probably hate him or her, I am selfish are some of the things that he told me. My blood pressure was so high but he kept on pressuring me all the time and wouldn't back off. Four days after I had my pregnancy confirmed I had a miscarriage (This was dec. 17th). This was one of the most painful experiences that I have ever had. I wouldn't wish this on anyone.

My heart is breaking and I don't know where to go from here. I am filled with so much pain and hatred right now. what do I do now? Someone please tell me.

Homegirl 50

Miscarriages are hard on you emotionally, I've had 3 so I know how you are feeling. But this painful experience has aslo shown you what a butt hole your boy friend is. Lose him.
Talk about it and cry. The pain eases you do heal and you will go on.
My condolences and I wish you well.

rpg219

I am so sorry for you. I have never had to deal with a miscarriage, but could imagine how hard that is for you. The first thing you need to do is leave that SOB! Don't look back, move on with your life. You will find someone who treats you well, is unattached and that you can start a beautiful family with.

Good luck in your time of loss.

Fr_Chuck

I am so sorry that you lost a baby and found out that the person who was with you did not truly love you.
This is a good time to start all over, lose the boyfriend, and time will help heal alot of wounds

oneguyinohio

Sorry for your loss.

Hope you can use the whole experience to your benefit in the future. You have the rest of your life to live as a changed person if you choose, not repeating the choices that ended in this. That is all in the past. Now, concentrate on the present and plan for the future.

sexyed

im so sorry for your lose i know how you feel i also losed a baby i didnt found out i was pregnant until it was too late i was just a month gone and even thou i didnt plan the pregnancy my baby would of been the most precious thing in my life i lost my baby in march its nearly a year people tell you in time it will get easier i still hurt i still cry take as long as you need to get over it but make sure you have people there for surport it is very hard to deal with but in time you will get stronger and im so sorry for your lose i know how you feel and as for that jerk you dont need him you can do better for yourself put your self first and when your ready you will find the perfect man but for now be strong and be patience time will heal

life1973happened

Dear sad and angry...
Life throws us incredible gifts and misfortunes and sometimes pulls them back as quickly as they were given to us. The anger you feel for him makes perfect sense. But as I do on this site I have to play devils advocate. He spoke out of emotion and fear. He knew he was in a relationship in which he enjoyed but he also knew he was married and if he was a good man, and for arguments sake he must have been since you also loved him, he was confused and scared. He reacted, plain and simple. It was unfortunate becuase his reaction was wrong and his delivery could have been a lot less painful on you but he was probably in a different state of shock.

You loved a man who also loved another woman. You also were only with each other a short time. Try to put the anger aside and use your energy to grieve for your loss. This man whether he wants to realize it or not during this selfish period of his life, also lost a child, one day it will mean something to him.

This has to be about you, Don't let anger fill your heart, not in this way because it's not worth it. I know it's easy for me to say and harder to live by. Take this experience as a second chance and a big learning lesson on what not to look for in a guy.

Just as love brought you two together, love will heal the broken heart you have now. In time, when it;s right, you will make a child greatful you are their mother and probably a husband full of love that you are not just his wife but his child's mother. That moment is your future, that's what you look to and focus on. That's your new beginning.

MycheleXoXo

Wow...I am so sorry you lost your baby I don't think there is really too much more I can add...everyone has already said it all...

The only thing I can add (from my own personal experience) is this...

When you lose a baby sometimes people around you will say very stupid things... Please, please don't let their comments pull you down! Most of the time, the people around you are simply ignorant of what you're feeling and going through...they feel like they have to say something, so they just say anything...not a good combination. Just remember, they don't always understand (even if they say they do)...each person grieves differently and each loss is different as well...You grieve in your way and in your own time...and know that many people stand behind you...supporting and loving you...even if it is unknown people from all across the world on the internet...

You are in my prayers.
XoXo
Mychele