my husdand says he's not addicted to weed he likes to smoke it bacouse it makes him feel good and it calms him dawn when he gets mad at some one if he dont smoke it he might hurt some won when he gets mad at them we've been together for 9 years married for 7 he hasnt put a hand on me he dont belive in beating on women he says he could quit at any time but he dont want to and when he runs out that is all he talkes about ." i wish i had some or i wish i had money to by some is he just making up excuses bacouse he don't want admet hes addicted to it and also if any has any info. on weed and what it does to you and your body or if you can refure me to any websites that can help me please let me know i'm cerous i want to know all adout it and it affects and why people like useing it?????

Are you sure it is just pot he is using, pot by itself should not be that addictive, But of course he is addicted, and at some point will be spending grocrey money, rent money to buy his drugs.

If he has such a temper, drugs is not the answer, counseling iswhat he needs. So now he needs rehab and couseling.

He just might be. I am having similar problems myself. I've been smoking for years now, and am having a very hard time quitting. I have similar symtoms as your husband, and I am having all kinds of problems in my life because of pot. It's important that you are there to help and support him. He will get angry with you, but if you really want him to stop, you have to stick with it. I hope this was some help, good luck.

thanks for the advice sorry i havent been on this site in so long but have to go to friends house to get on the inernet i was always tought when i was younger that pot was a sin against god. then i met my husdand when i was 18 him and his brother convenced me that it wasnt bad and it wouldnot hurt you bacouse it grew out of the ground naturally so i tryed it i smoked it for 4 years after i got prag. and we had our son i quit i did'nt hav the desire to anymore first i didnot want to put the baby at risk when i was prag and i was scaird that when i was high i would be capible of taking care of my son i would fell really bad if somthing happened to my son and he got hurt really bad or he died bacouse of my neglence and i didnt want my son to be brought around drugs my son was more important than drugsi quit in 20001 in 20002 i somked oncinawile bacouse people kept buging me to but then i finily quit bacouse when i did it i would freak out think somthing bad was going to happen to me or my son im prag. again and still drug free my kids are still more imporntant to me than drugs i get flustread some times bacouse i dont want the stuf brought in our home or my son to be around it i dont want to be around it eather espishelly now that im prag. again i guess i just got to hang there and let god handle it i'm a christian so i pray alought i've been praying about it for adout 3 years i want give up until i get resoults he quit for 2 weeks once in 2004 after he jot bustid with a 1/2 pound one of our nabous rated him out he spint 2 weeks in jail he starting going back to church and everything then he started back up i prayed that god would do whatever it toke to get him of drug for a month then allof the sudden that whats happened i think god was trying to shake him up it worked for 2 weeks well after that he has changed alought so thats good some people say change takes time i can't exepect him to totley chang over night change takes time but he also snorts coke once in awile he dont bring that stuff in the house bacouse he knows bacouse i told him i put up with him bering pot in the house but i wont put up with that i even told him if he's want's to snort a line he has to go some were else and stay at your friends house tell your high has gone from it he respects that so i'm glad of that.. hang in their it willget better for you what it took for me was having kids to quit.

Well, Marijuana is not addicting physically, but you can create a mental attraction to it, is all.

From the following site: MARIJUANA ADDICTION (http://www.spencerrecovery.com/marijuana-addiction.html)

Marijuana is not physically addicting. But this does not let users off the hook. Just because a drug is not physically addicting doesn't mean that it is not addicting in any capacity. It is by far one of the most addicting drugs on the market when thought about as emotionally and mentally addicting.

Hello half:

A better question would be, what are you gonna do about it????

Because you're not gonna get an answer that will do you any good. Lots of people think pot isn't addicting. Lot's of people think it is.... Who cares????

What IS important, is your husband uses it LIKE he's addicted. Do you want him to stop? Don't you get loaded with him??? Is it causing problems? What???

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I am sorry about your dilemma. You can not change your husband. However, you must see the good in him. Does he provide? Is he a good husband to you? Good to his mama?
or are there other things???? Pot is not as bad, but if there other things, we all aren't perfect, however, God bless you for seeking to be the best you can be for the beautiful children God has given you. It will make a huge difference in your children's lives. Keep the faith, get connected to a faith community who will support you and your family.

I am sorry about your dilemma. You can not change your husband. However, you must see the good in him. Does he provide? Is he a good husband to you? Good to his mama?
or are there other things???? Pot is not as bad, but if there other things, we all aren't perfect, however, God bless you for seeking to be the best you can be for the beautiful children God has given you. It will make a huge difference in your children's lives. Keep the faith, get connected to a faith community who will support you and your family.

ANswer this? Does a good husband, son, dad put pot above his family, the lord, and his life? She says he gets angry because he doesn't have it or complains about not being able to afford it, while she's probably getting angry because she can't buy her kids all the newest things and toys, or complains about being short on the rent that month. It's not her problem, it's his. I've always heard pot is not addicting, yet I know so many people who just can't get away from it. Including my fiance. Which is why he's not my husband. I don't know how to get him too stop and lately he's been spending more and more money on it and we've been fighting alot about it. SO I want her to know I know how she's feeling right now. It shouldn't be something you just have to live with. The fact of him supporting my family or not hitting me should not be the only positives in our lives. I have to literally budget almost 450 from our monthly income so he can smoke his MJ and cigs, and have a beer or two after work? Yeah I know I should probably leave, but we have a kid and home and a life together. I'd rather get him to quit then to leave him, though lately I'm wondering if him quitting will be an option? I don't know the answer, but I know what she's feeling and I think you gave poor advice. My lord is not going to make him stop and my faith will not make him stop- and as far as my "faith community" goes, they're not exactly going to help any "drugies" as they would say. I can only talk for myself here because I don't personaly know her. I do know one thing, he's going to have to want to stop before it can ever happen. GOod Luck hun...

i smoked 14 years, pot i got cancer so i quit 7 years later i started i have relasped 8 times now each time drags out longer and longer
the death of my cat flipped me out i started smoking again to mellow me out and help ease the real world on me.
going on allmost 3 mths now i smoke very little but everyday
i got wife child mother living with us
my whole world has been hell since i started it.
for getting stuff being lazy lost weight cause my body dont like the garbage feels ok..
everytime i use feels like im to high and i suffer aienty and panic attacks..
im hungry all the time.
and i smoke !!
does that sound like having fun...
just wait til you stop..
you must have paitence with your men if they do stop
1st 4 weeks are the worst !!
if he can make it 15 days hes got it beat
fever chills headaches pains muscle aches dizzy light headed angry fits sever mood swings
yes all from stopping pot after smoking heavy or light for over a year
but if he gives one thing up becareful he dont grab for the bottle yes he needs somthing to replace one habit.
i was lucky my friends threw me away when they found out i had cancer and couldnt buy anymore or smoke or drink.. so i got a whole new crowd
i go to nazerene church
and make matters worse i got a legal note saying i can do it.
my advise is to offer them help.
there are alot of places on the web for free ma meetings online and a whole lot more
you gotta want to be rid of that stuff
i hate it. but yet it calms me down i love my church and family
i loved my cat how could god take him from me..?
i get no answers so i get high and forget about it for a few hours
i need a sponcer someone to talk to when i feel the urge someone to help me..
your men lucky they got you
save them before your so far in debt.. your just paying for the people on welfare to keep cheating the system and having more babies they cant afford.
why arn't i in rehab..
i run my household. and i cant afford it i just need 24 hours that all and i can deprogram myself.. to much gos on in this house and bam... im running for the bunkers.

Speaking for myself, i've been mentally addicted to weed for about 4 years. I'm currently 23 and i STILL smoke on a daily bases. If i cant get it, it tripz me out, if I can get it i'm the happiest person on the earth. I see myself as a strong person but when it comes to weed i feel completely powerless. People laugh because whos addicted to weed? It has literally screwed me over finactially mentally and emotionally. I have lost friends and places over the stupid drug. I just dont get it honestly. I've tried NA meetings and stuff but i hate the stupid religious references they use in order to help someone understand addiction. I dunno friends and communication both with yourself and the world is key in understanding addiction, i didnt even start accepting that i had an addiction until i wanted to realize. Its HARD and SCARY but with the love and support of friends and family it aint that bad. Just gutta substitute the smoking pot with another stimulate. loll life seems so hard.:confused:

Well I came asross this post and I have to comment , I have been married for19 yrs to a husband that provides for us and is a closet weed smoker.
We fought about it for years until I figured out that I cant change him. so do I live with it or leave, that was the ultimate question. I decided that despite the fact that he does this he is still my husband and the father of my children and a pretty good one, so I stayed.
It has caused problems, I told him that if our kids ever found out that would be it. But guess what kids are smart they eventually figured it out as teens, both of my teenagers ages 15 and 18 do it now and its hard for my husband to help because he feels like a hipacrite. I deal with it as best as I can, I Hope that they will grow out of it and if they dont that they will not do anything else I talk to them about all the dangers of all the other drugs and print stuff out for them to read. My husband talked to them honestly and told them that he wished he had never started and that
If you look back at his school records you can see exactly when he started in his junior year.
My daughter is in college now and she seems to be doing ok and I dont think she even cares about it that much, she just does it in social situations.
All I can say from exsperience is that more than likely he wont change.
So you either live with it or not.

Yea hes been acdited since he sartded that stuffs bad you should think about taking him to rehab that cures almoast everybody. but yea weeds not near as bad as cocaine and isnt really a drug but is a gateway to drugs. weed isnt really stong, cocaine being the stongest natrual drug in the world. but you could try to help him ween off of it but rehab would be the best