My girl is getting very upset and it kills me to see her like this, but when we have sex it goes on for a very long time and I can't seem to "get off". The sensations build and it almost happens (sometimes it does) but if I miss that window, it can become an all night affair. She seems to think that she is not "turning me on" but I am under a lot of stress and with 3 kids are moments are fleeting. This is frustuating for us both, and one of a couple of our problems, but I hate to see her go through this, is there anything I can do to increase my sensitivaty? Vitamins, meds? Sincere replies only please.:(

Yes, stress can cause this. Also, what is your age? Are you on any meds?

Yes, I am on ursidol to keep kidney function, and also on heavy doses of prednisone for about two months.

My girl is getting very upset and it kills me to see her like this, but when we have sex it goes on for a very long time and I can't seem to "get off". The sensations build and it almost happens (sometimes it does) but if I miss that window, it can become an all night affair. She seems to think that she is not "turning me on" but I am under alot of stress and with 3 kids are moments are fleeting. This is frustuating for us both, and one of a couple of our problems, but I hate to see her go thru this, is there anything I can do to increase my sensitivaty? Vitamins, meds? Sincere replies only please.:(
I have the same problem -- and have always had it. I can only 'stair step' my way up to an orgasm -- I have to stroke 40 times, then stop for a minute or two, then do it again -- sometimes I have to do this sequence 60 times! It can take 40 minutes!

I wonder about the kidney thing... I have to pee all the time... but that's been true for 30 years! (I'm 51). I've always had this problem with pleasure and stroking while having sex -- and even when I masturbate, with porn, I have to 'stair step'.

Viagra does help a lot in maintaining my erection -- but it's still hard to actually climax.

I am trying a variety of therapies -- including acupuncture. I will continue to work hard on this problem