OK. So I have been with my husband since October of 2011. We got married in August of 2012. Since February of 2012 I know he has been talking to other girls on his face book and dating sites. He claims he has never met them. But when he talks to them he always sets up a time and date to meet them.

We are constantly behind on bills because he is the only one that works, as I have no one that can watch our son who is seven months old. He has to pay an enormous amount of child support for his last child. I was hoping he would take a great job offer we have in Tennessee but he won't only because his friends won't go. So now we have no chance of catching up. We now live with our friends. My vehicle has been broken down for months. He got taxes and bought himself a brand new vehicle and leaves me with our son without a running vehicle.

So here's my problem I'm not really sure what to do. Three weeks ago I got a call from his best friends he has a girlfriend in South Carolina so I just got a question about it. I've already tried to leave twice. The first time he begged me back. The second time he told me if I left he was going to take the baby from me permanently. So what do I do?

You take your baby and you leave his selfish ! Do you not have family friends who could help until you can get on your feet? Either way you would be better off apart. I know it's hard because you love him and are scared but just think of that little life you created.. If not for yourself then do it for your child

How does he take the baby from you permanently? That's for the courts to decide and it doesn't sound like he is a model citizen.

So what do you do... well, you keep putting up with this or you leave. Surely there has to be someone that can help you... or a shelter or something like that.

Stop being afraid of threats from a poor excuse of a husband that doesn't handle his business and leave. Family or a shelter is better than what you are dealing with now.

Do the right hing for yourself and your child because obviously he won't.

OK well his friend helped me move out both times. I really don't have anyone that could help. But he got so mad that his friend helped. He was really pissed

Would marriage counciling help... or do you think its just over

Well judging from the fact he said "if you leave he will take the baby away from you" then I would say he's only bothered about losing something he thinks he owns (you) sounds like he wouldn't be at all cut up about it so I would say it's over on his part as he don't respect you at all

OK, so I got some replies for my last post. They all told me to leave my husband that is cheating and doing other things. Is it possible that marriage councilling could help?

I'm only asking because the second time happened yesterday but, when I came back with a crop he claimed he loves me and that he was going to get help. And he did begin his counciling today

Angel, you should have kept it all in one thread, that way everyone who answered you the first time will see this and know the whole history.

It is 'counselling' by the way; and in my opinion, once a cheater always a cheater but if you can get passed that, you are a saint.

You seem to be a trueheart, so I don't see why you want someone who is cheating on you. Now you also have to think about STDs and whatever he brings home to you. Sorry this is blunt, but you have not thought it all through I guess.

Well I have to admit I love him. And in not really sure what to do. He sought council this morning. Yes I have thought about stds and the whole nine yards. Our son is only seven months so I was hoping to get passed this. We having even been married a year

Yes, you may love him. Excuse me, I am dubious, but he has been cheating and you have a child, so that makes a big difference. If he has been cheating.

You are saying he took counselling without you; that is not the way it works, angel.

Do I suggest marriage council

Why don't you try telling him that you think you should have a break from each other untillyou can see he is trying and changing and then see if you have a future together

If you seriouly think he went to counseling after one day then you need to verify the truth because a liar and cheater will say anything to distract you from the truth. I still think you should just leave.

Againok Hall know what's been going on. He said he was getting help. Blah blah blah. Bulls hit. He's got a brand new dating site. It really makes me mad. My question is if I leave can he stop me from leaving by saying I can't take the baby. Can he tell me if I leave I can't take the baby. I mean how do you leave when children are involved

You leave and take you and your baby to a womens' shelter. Google in your area to find one and leave immediately. He can't touch you there and they will help you.

Is that the only way

You indicate that you have a less then satisfactory situation, so yes, if you want out, do it. Any woman in jeopardy with a baby has to seek help. So find some guts and do it.

I was hoping to leave go to someone's house. File for divorce and do what his ex wife did

Do whatever you think is the best way of handling the situation. If you and baby are not safe, a shelter would be best. I don't actually know how dire your situation is, I am not there, so you have to do the best you can.

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