She has not kept her word and is also changing stuff on her own amd saying in his ex wife's divorce he's a crackhead amd alcoholic and keeps saying he's great father and how well he dpes as a father and basically yells at me amd says he doesn't have to help w childvare and transportation evem though we have shared custody w me being primary residence e shared

So ?

The cases are not connected, if you want a new lawyer get one?

A person does not change anything, only the court can change it, if they are not following court orders take them to court

So ?

The cases are not connected, if you want a new lawyer get one?

A person does not change anything, only the court can change it, if they are not following court orders take them to court

No chuck its HIS lawyer that also represented his ex wife 4 yrs ago lol and the divorce was based on a lot of tge same allegations of crack coke amd alcohol abuse also I've have read their divorce papers and pfa the ex wife put on him. She and her lawyer put some of the same thing in the original court filings his ex wife filed in 2010 . He is now friends with his ex wife (go figure she and him were together ever since they were ,15 and he was acquitted of murdering his girlfriend at the time ) WHOLE NOTHER STORY LOL... I feel like tgis should be contradicting and bias and at the very least

Least,conflict of interest.she the lawyer knows all this and shouldn't be his lawyer could I file for contempt or how she misled me (I have her text vm and such) and purposely held a final hearing without me present and SOMEHOW OR SOMEONE CHAMGED MY ADDRESS TO THE COURTS HMMMM SCREWED SINGLE MOM FIGHTING W HER HEART LEFT BY HIM ALONE NEVAUSE HE BOUGHT A CRAIHSLIST HOOKER AND LEFT TGE EVIDENCE ON MY PHONE AND HOLDS TOTLE SO WE can't MOVE ON AMD HES WELL PFF PWMS A VERY PROSPEROUS CELL TOWER COMPANY ALLS I NEED IS TITLE TIRES N BRAKES WHICH I HABE A TEXT FROM HIM SAYING HE WPULD GET IT FIXED AMD STICKERED LIKE HE PROMISED W HE LEFT US M BOUGHT A BRAMD NEW HOUSE HE HAD ME DO ALL THEFoot work and deed searches m permits only to leave us w no way out away from my family wheres my daugjter and my justice lol HELP

I'm not following. Did this lawyer represent both in the divorce? Or is he now hiring the same lawyer for another case?

You aren't writing very coherently, sorry. If this is how you talk to the courts, you are going to have a tough time. You need to fight a lawyer with your own lawyer. Yes, people lie when they divorce and they lie in custody battles.
I don't see how you or a lawyer are going to get his lawyer removed, however, just because she represented his ex when he and she divorced.

You aren't writing very coherently, sorry. If this is how you talk to the courts, you are going to have a tough time. You need to fight a lawyer with your own lawyer. Yes, people lie when they divorce and they lie in custody battles.
I don't see how you or a lawyer are going to get his lawyer removed, however, just because she represented his ex when he and she divorced.


So basically because I have many typos and I'm frustrated and without funds for a lawyer his lawyer who eas already reprimanded in another similar case through the barr. I have to do what she says and ignore the safety issues and all the contempts they have committed? Like I said, how can a lawyer say in his exwifes divorve and pfa case that he is bad and hooked on crack and abusive and alcoholic and 3 yrs later change her position and say he doesn't do such things? How can she leave a vm saying she can get $600 in my acct for child support if I can agree to drop the pfa.
I have found crack pipes in my daughters old bedroom drawer and straws in his truck and I still after ten months don't know where he lives and takes my 3 yr old he's mobed several times. Also how can we have shared parental responsibility when he works and stays out of state 6 days a week? How can he ignore that his daughter can't get to doctors school etc without my title to car and it says in our order he's half responsible for tramsportation medical decisions when his phone is off 6 days a week amd he's out of state.
His lawyer is misleading the court and he's never once had to talk in court!! Also we were both ordered to take a kids first program mind you I jave no car and took mine in June amd he still hasn't... his lawyer screams at me and tells me what her client is doing and how he lives soooooo how does she get to decide he's xoing well I asked her to prove it and lets drug test him they stay far away and avoid su h convetsations... she says and I quote" mem dont grow up be happy he pays child support cause hes never going to change" she promised me the title if I dropped this latest pfa and let his sizter do the swap for visits and not omce has the sistsr came without him and his other sister. The jydge signed and ordeted this recemt change
And as a single mom stuck without a car title and left in the middle of nowhere as he moved us there to build a house how isn't he responsible for transportation and in essence, leaving us stranded on purpose... so o guess cause I'm fighting w my heart for my little girl he's fighting w his attorney and his money... my daughter suffers and I have no rights for her


And not all lawyers lie

If his lawyer once represented his ex wife, and now is representing him in court against you, while it may or may not be a conflict of interest, I don't think you have standing to complain about it.

Lawyers don't usually commit perjury (lie in court) because, for one thing, they don't usually testify. If they lawyer is making factual allegations without backing them up with an affidavit or live testimony, you can object to that.

Hey, don't shoot the messenger. I feel for you, but I can't help you financially, and being sympathetic does no good in court.
I didn't say all lawyers lie. Read what I said again.
You have a snowball's chance in hell of getting her disbarred for either lying or some conflict, although if you think you can convince the bar association, feel free to try.
Again, you write in kind of a ramble. You have to write with the awareness that we aren't there. You have given us no facts about the custody and SUPPORT arrangements.

You should try to find a lawyer who can take this on with no retainer, and his or her fee will come out of what you get. But because you weren't married, you might not find one.
I'm sorry! Don't blame me!

... You should try to find a lawyer who can take this on with no retainer, and his or her fee will come out of what you get. ...

At least some places bar lawyers from taking domestic relations cases on a contingent fee.

At least some places bar lawyers from taking domestic relations cases on a contingent fee.

I know I ramble I'm very good at face to face and I'm telling you this lawyer has already been in trouble from the barr wow sorryim so wrong to fight this trust me god will see is through and justice w prevail she vant blackmail me and she did lie to the judge by not doing what he ORDERED GURSS MONEY WINS

... she did lie to the judge by not doing what he ORDERED ...

Was she to do something, or did the judge order her client to do something?

In the former case she could be sanctioned perhaps.
In the latter case he could be held in contempt of court
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Was she to do something, or did the judge order her client to do something?

In the former case she could be sanctioned perhaps.
In the latter case he could be held in contempt of court
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Yes tge judge had her write a letter stating the pick ups and drop offs be done by her clients sister if I dropped pfa the jusge signed it and she let her client leave so the judge had her sign it 2days later her client both his sisters came to pick up and drop off. She also agreed she herself in the order she ould get my title and mail it within a week now she texted and said if I return his cable equipment she will give me title I retirned equipment in August and sent her the receipt. She also told me I can't get him to stop using and will have to hope he doesn't use while my child's there. She also refused to give me his address mind you he's moved 4 times and for ten mnths I have not a clie where helives and takes my daughter. They gave the mediator and court a address of his rental and that's where he gets his mail he's had tenants there for 10 yrs and now I've agreed to lwt them give my mom his address believe me I have NEVER given him reason to keep his address from me I have NEVER GONE TO ANY OF HIS PLACES NEVER Harassed HIM N HE KNOWS MY ADDRESS HE TRICKED ME INTO MOVING UP HERE SAYING HE WAS BUILDING OUR HOUSE WHICH I DID ALL THE WORK FOR THE PERMIT HE LEFT US W A CAR W NO TITLE N A RENT THAT I CAN BARELY PAY I WAS LIED TO FOR CHILD SUPPORT REASONS CAUSE HE WAS BEHIND N STUPID ME UNDER DIREST N FEAR LIED N TOLD DHS HE JAD HER 50% OF THE TIME SO HE Didn't HAVE TO PAY 14,000 IN BACK SUPPORT WE DID A PHONE HEARING W Hld support court and he was sitting across from me and told me he wpuld throw me and my son who isn't his son and he would keep my daughter cause id be homeless... it's a mess... I have a text from December saying he would fix and sticker the car and give me title is that a binding contract? His laqyer alao texted me if I want child support I need to be nicer to her client and if I don't drop the pfa she would get her witnesses together and I could lose my child... I need a lawyer but in Maine you can't get a court appointed one w family matters and I don't know how to find one who'll do payments or pro bono ugh I feel if we share parental rights and responsibility and he won't give me title and works in Rhode Island 6 days a weeek how can he help get her to school? Drs? And his lawyer says cause she lives w me its my problem so sgpuldnt I have soul custody since he's not available and doesn't even have voicemail set up on his phone n NEVER GETS RECEPTION EVEN THOUGH HE OWNS A CELL PHONE COMPANY? Oh one more thing, he's xlaiming he makws 900 a week and I have proof he makes more his lawyer said so what I own my practice and pay myself what I want. He also claims the child and doesn't care for her but one day a week and he doesn't pay half her expenses someone please help I appreciate any advice she's a beautiful little girl and I wish I could post you a pic of my car under t ft of snow

Here are my problems - text speak makes it very difficult to figure out what you're saying. Caps are the same as shouting.

There's no need for either.

From what I can tell you cannot or will not tell a story that makes any sense or is easy to follow.

If you post your concerns clearly and concisely without all of the emotion I'm guessing you'll get some good answers.

In the meantime on behalf of everyone in the legal profession your "money talks" statement is grossly unfair. The other side of things is that I expect to get paid when I work.

Unless you work for free, don't criticize people who charge - if that's what you're rambling on about.

Yes tge judge had her write a letter stating the pick ups n drop offs be done by her clients sister if i dropped pfa the the jusge signed it n she let her client leave so the judge had her sign it 2days later her client both his sisters came to pick up n drop off. She also agreed she herself in the order she ould get my title n mail it within a week now she texted and said if i return his cable equipment she will give me title i retirned equipment in august and sent her the receipt. She also told me i can't get him to stop using n will have to hope he doesnt use while my childs there. She also refused to give me his address mind you hes moved 4 times and for ten mnths i have not a clie where helives n takes my daughter. They gave the mediator n court a address of his rental and thats where he gets his mail hes had tenants there for 10 yrs and now ive agreed to lwt them give my mom his address beleive me i have NEVER given him reason to keep his address from me i have NEVER GONE TO ANY OF HIS PLACES NEVER HARRASSED HIM N HE KNOWS MY ADDRESS HE TRICKED ME INTO MOVING UP HERE SAYING HE WAS BUILDING OUR HOUSE WHICH I DID ALL THE WORK FOR THE PERMIT HE LEFT US W A CAR W NO TITLE N A RENT THAT I CAN BARELY PAY I WAS LIED TO FOR CHILD SUPPORT REASONS CAUSE HE WAS BEHIND N STUPID ME UNDER DIREST N FEAR LIED N TOLD DHS HE JAD HER 50% OF THE TIME SO HE DIDNT HAVE TO PAY 14,000 IN BACK SUPPORT WE DID A PHONE HEARING W Hld support court n he was sitting across from me n told me he wpuld throw me n my son who isnt his son n he would keep my daughter cause id be homeless... its a mess... i have a text from december saying he would fix n sticker the car n give me title is that a binding contract? His laqyer alao texted me if i want child support i need to be nicer to her client and if i dnt drop the pfa she would get her witnesses together and i could lose my child.... i need a lawyer but in maine you can't get a court appointed one w family matters and i dnt know how to find one who'll do payments or pro bono ugh i feel if we share parental rights n responsibility n he wont give me title n works in rhode island 6 days a weeek how can he help get her to school? Drs? And his lawyer says cause she lives w me its my problem so sgpuldnt i have soul custody since hes not available n doesnt even have voicemail set up on his phone n NEVER GETS RECEPTION EVEN THOUGH HE OWNS A CELL PHONE COMPANY? Oh one more thing, hes xlaiming he makws 900 a week n i have proof he makes more his lawyer said so what i own my practice n pay myself what i want. He also claims the child and doesnt care for her but one day a week and he doesnt pay half her expenses someone please help i appreciate any advice shes a beautiful lil girl n i wish i could post u a pic of my car under t ft of snow

I'm going to make a request that should really help you get some answers.

Put breaks in your post where one paragraph ends and another begins. It makes your post easier to read, and therefore easier to understand.

Don't use text talk. Write using full words, full sentences, and the best English you're capable of. It's very hard to decipher much of what you're writing.

Leave out how you feel about this, just post the facts. We understand that you're upset, but telling us how beautiful your little girl is, although sweet, does not give us info on what legal advice to offer.

You have to remember, we can only go by what you tell us. If what you're telling us is impossible to understand, which it really is at this point, then there's no way that we can help. The only way to make yourself understood on this forum, is in writing. So you really have to take your time and write in the clearest way you can.

There's no space limit, there's no charge per letter, you can write as much or as little as you want, but take your time and write it well. I would suggest writing it out on MS Word, doing a spell check, organizing it, re-reading it, and then copy and paste it here. Take your time.

... i have a text from december saying he would fix n sticker the car n give me title is that a binding contract? ..

No. It was a unilateral (one-sided) promise. That wouldn't be an enforceable contract.

I'm going to make a request that should really help you get some answers.

Put breaks in your post where one paragraph ends and another begins. It makes your post easier to read, and therefore easier to understand.

Don't use text talk. Write using full words, full sentences, and the best English you're capable of. It's very hard to decipher much of what you're writing.

Leave out how you feel about this, just post the facts. We understand that you're upset, but telling us how beautiful your little girl is, although sweet, does not give us info on what legal advice to offer.

You have to remember, we can only go by what you tell us. If what you're telling us is impossible to understand, which it really is at this point, then there's no way that we can help. The only way to make yourself understood on this forum, is in writing. So you really have to take your time and write in the clearest way you can.


Thank you!

There's no space limit, there's no charge per letter, you can write as much or as little as you want, but take your time and write it well. I would suggest writing it out on MS Word, doing a spell check, organizing it, re-reading it, and then copy and paste it here. Take your time.


Thank you! And you're absolutely right. You have given me the best advice yet.

Agree, I tend to ramble and use text and I am also on my phone so it's typos that I'm too anxious,upset and hurt to slow down and correct.
I really understand that I sound uneducated and crazy in the prior forums,however I aasure you if anything this is driving me CRAZY. I do have to remember this is about my child not myself and anger and hurt by her fathers behavior. I actually attended the Kids first program and learned a lot but he hasn't gone.
I just want him to know he's hurting his childby hurting me and withholding title to car and shutting our lights off and leaving her and I in a bad situation a dangerous situatio. I have already had a pedifile plow my driveway because he saw my car brokedown and was wanting to buy it. He was plowing my car in I called police and found out he was a convicted pedifile. Oops I went off track again. Point being car can't be fixed or driven without title he hides his real income and pays $166 a week and I can't get her to school or doctors. I can't get a job we are in the woods where he is from and him and his lawyer deny this. She agreed to get me the title now she says she won't until I give a cable equipment receipt. I provided it.
I found her on Maine.gov for the same type of behavior and wish I could privately post the link. But I'm not out to ruin her rep.
I will try again to find a pro bono lawyer.
Thank you,
Sarah s.

Sara, I work in the Court system. You have got to focus if you want to win any part of this case.

This is about the law, not about relationships. I understand your anger and hurt - but you have got to focus or you will drive the Attorney far, far away. That especially pertains to pro bono Attorneys who get more requests than they can possibly handle.

Here are my problems - text speak makes it very difficult to figure out what you're saying. Caps are the same as shouting.

There's no need for either.

From what I can tell you cannot or will not tell a story that makes any sense or is easy to follow.

If you post your concerns clearly and concisely without all of the emotion I'm guessing you'll get some good answers.

In the meantime on behalf of everyone in the legal profession your "money talks" statement is grossly unfair. The other side of things is that I expect to get paid when I work.

Unless you work for free, don't criticize people who charge - if that's what you're rambling on about.




I am literally insulted by your last response! For one thing ,I do work for free everyday of my life I WORK FOR GOD! I volunteer, I have fostered abused children and I shovel my neighbors mother out EVERY storm... I believe in paying it forward.
Yes, I do have some issues with getting my point across and staying with the facts and yes I should use spell check but am on my phone which doesn't have that option. Also I am obviously on this forum for advice and people dealing with similar experiences. However, my main objective is my daughters safety,happiness and above all her right to be protected. I love her so much and I don't hate her daddy I hurt for Her and I watch as ahe suffers because mom can't afford a Lawyer due to the father and his attorney withholding my title leaving us with no way out.
I watch as he pulls up in his brand new truck with a plow and lets her out to walk 100 ft through the hard snow.(yes I shovel)
I watch as my little girl says "Mommy, i have tools at daddys to fix our car" or " Mommy, I can use my tire off ny bike" I do not discuss ANYTHING around her. She's three and very smart.and children sense things so before I ramble and make a fool out of myself for not being grammatically correct in my postand for wanting the BEST for my daughter and her fathers relationships, I need to say, I use caps tp exptess myself I obviously am not in court and would definitely use a printer and auto correction o edit and review my case. I am only saying I'm FIGHTING WITH MY HEART. Because he has money a business (mind you I helped him get all this) and means to pay dor council I however live in a rural area no busses,cars or trains. No daycares close enough or preschool for my child and all I ask is for my title, help with transportation as he has SHARED parental rights and RESPONSIBILITY and for him to get help for his crack addiction and to be healthy for our daughter.
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His lawyer called and demanded I get the carseat back to her clients sisters house TODAY! They have their scheduled visits tomorrow and it makes more sense to me that we exchange child and seat. Then. She kept texting and I asked her to not contact me and I was going to court tomorrow to see about a amendment to the prior agreements. That the llawyer signed herself as she excused her client before the judge even sgrred to drop the pfa and make the client sign too. I signed and she signed he did not. His lawyer was ordered by tge judge to put tge agreement in "black and white" so that I the mom would have comfort and protection and she did sign the judge signed I didn't sign and the judge ordered her to putdockett number and give to clerk and she did and got me a copy.
So yes I do feel unless I can afford $175 an hr. My daughter's father and lawyer can bully,intimidate,threaten harrass and above all put my daughter in harms way and her beat interest ITS ABOUT MY CHILD NOT WINNING.
I don't want to debate argue or be put down on this forum, I actually got a lot from sone of your feedbacks.
Thank you

Here are my problems - text speak makes it very difficult to figure out what you're saying. Caps are the same as shouting.

There's no need for either.

From what I can tell you cannot or will not tell a story that makes any sense or is easy to follow.

If you post your concerns clearly and concisely without all of the emotion I'm guessing you'll get some good answers.

In the meantime on behalf of everyone in the legal profession your "money talks" statement is grossly unfair. The other side of things is that I expect to get paid when I work.

Unless you work for free, don't criticize people who charge - if that's what you're rambling on about.




I am literally insulted by your last response! For one thing ,I do work for free everyday of my life I WORK FOR GOD! I volunteer, I have fostered abused children and I shovel my neighbors mother out EVERY storm... I believe in paying it forward.
Yes, I do have some issues with getting my point across and staying with the facts and yes I should use spell check but am on my phone which doesn't have that option. Also I am obviously on this forum for advice and people dealing with similar experiences. However, my main objective is my daughters safety,happiness and above all her right to be protected. I love her so much and I don't hate her daddy I hurt for Her and I watch as ahe suffers because mom can't afford a Lawyer due to the father and his attorney withholding my title leaving us with no way out.
I watch as he pulls up in his brand new truck with a plow and lets her out to walk 100 ft through the hard snow.(yes I shovel)
I watch as my little girl says "Mommy, i have tools at daddys to fix our car" or " Mommy, I can use my tire off ny bike" I do not discuss ANYTHING around her. She's three and very smart.and children sense things so before I ramble and make a fool out of myself for not being grammatically correct in my postand for wanting the BEST for my daughter and her fathers relationships, I need to say, I use caps tp exptess myself I obviously am not in court and would definitely use a printer and auto correction o edit and review my case. I am only saying I'm FIGHTING WITH MY HEART. Because he has money a business (mind you I helped him get all this) and means to pay dor council I however live in a rural area no busses,cars or trains. No daycares close enough or preschool for my child and all I ask is for my title, help with transportation as he has SHARED parental rights and RESPONSIBILITY and for him to get help for his crack addiction and to be healthy for our daughter.
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His lawyer called and demanded I get the carseat back to her clients sisters house TODAY! They have their scheduled visits tomorrow and it makes more sense to me that we exchange child and seat. Then. She kept texting and I asked her to not contact me and I was going to court tomorrow to see about a amendment to the prior agreements. That the llawyer signed herself as she excused her client before the judge even sgrred to drop the pfa and make the client sign too. I signed and she signed he did not. His lawyer was ordered by tge judge to put tge agreement in "black and white" so that I the mom would have comfort and protection and she did sign the judge signed I didn't sign and the judge ordered her to putdockett number and give to clerk and she did and got me a copy.
So yes I do feel unless I can afford $175 an hr. My daughter's father and lawyer can bully,intimidate,threaten harrass and above all put my daughter in harms way and her beat interest ITS ABOUT MY CHILD NOT WINNING.
I don't want to debate argue or be put down on this forum, I actually got a lot from sone of your feedbacks.
Thank you

I am literally insulted by your last response! For one thing ,I do work for free everyday of my life I WORK FOR GOD! I volunteer, I have fostered abused children and I shovel my neighbors mother out EVERY storm... I believe in paying it forward.

I'm going to give you even more advice. Like it or not, not everyone believes in God. So bringing up "I work for God" really doesn't make a difference. Judy's post is valid. If everyone worked for free, I agree it would be better world, but sadly, that's not realistic. If you want a roof over your head, food on the table, education, and more, than you can't work for free. Suggesting that people that work for money, expect to be paid for their services, are insulting, is not right.


Also I am obviously on this forum for advice and people dealing with similar experiences. However, my main objective is my daughters safety,happiness and above all her right to be protected. I love her so much and I don't hate her daddy I hurt for Her and I watch as ahe suffers because mom can't afford a Lawyer due to the father and his attorney withholding my title leaving us with no way out.

I feel for you. Here's the thing. You came here expecting an easy fix, and easy answer, and that's not reality. Your issues are going to cost you money, because you need a lawyer, and finding one that will take your case pro bono, well, you'd have more luck playing the lottery. We sympathize with your financial situation, we're sorry that you can't afford a lawyer, but that's the only advice we can give. We're not here to give you money. Trust me, I'm not financially secure either. I can't afford a lawyer. I get it. But it seems like you're expecting someone on this site to fix everything, and that's just not possible. We can't fix your financial situation. We can only give you advice on what to do. If you can't afford to do it, then sorry. There's nothing anyone on this site can do about that.


I watch as he pulls up in his brand new truck with a plow and lets her out to walk 100 ft through the hard snow.(yes I shovel)
I watch as my little girl says "Mommy, i have tools at daddys to fix our car" or " Mommy, I can use my tire off ny bike" I do not discuss ANYTHING around her. She's three and very smart.and children sense things so before I ramble and make a fool out of myself for not being grammatically correct in my postand for wanting the BEST for my daughter and her fathers relationships, I need to say, I use caps tp exptess myself I obviously am not in court and would definitely use a printer and auto correction o edit and review my case. I am only saying I'm FIGHTING WITH MY HEART. Because he has money a business (mind you I helped him get all this) and means to pay dor council I however live in a rural area no busses,cars or trains. No daycares close enough or preschool for my child and all I ask is for my title, help with transportation as he has SHARED parental rights and RESPONSIBILITY and for him to get help for his crack addiction and to be healthy for our daughter.

A lawyer can help you with that. We can't. You posted a question here on how to proceed. You were given advice. From your posts, it seems that you either came here to vent about the unfair treatment of you and your daughter, or vent about not being able to afford to get this settled, but you didn't post for actual advice. You were given advice. If you can't afford to follow that advice, or refuse to take that advice, then there's really nothing we can do. Did you post here hoping someone would say "Oh, you poor dear, how much should I make the check out to?"
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His lawyer called and demanded I get the carseat back to her clients sisters house TODAY! They have their scheduled visits tomorrow and it makes more sense to me that we exchange child and seat. Then. She kept texting and I asked her to not contact me and I was going to court tomorrow to see about a amendment to the prior agreements. That the llawyer signed herself as she excused her client before the judge even sgrred to drop the pfa and make the client sign too. I signed and she signed he did not. His lawyer was ordered by tge judge to put tge agreement in "black and white" so that I the mom would have comfort and protection and she did sign the judge signed I didn't sign and the judge ordered her to putdockett number and give to clerk and she did and got me a copy.
So yes I do feel unless I can afford $175 an hr. My daughter's father and lawyer can bully,intimidate,threaten harrass and above all put my daughter in harms way and her beat interest ITS ABOUT MY CHILD NOT WINNING.
I don't want to debate argue or be put down on this forum, I actually got a lot from sone of your feedbacks.




Again, I'm sorry that you're facing all of this.

What were you expecting from this site? That's the question I'm asking. What did you think we could do to help? You've really been given the only advice, the only help, anyone on this site can offer. It's up to you what to do with it, and I can only wish you the best of luck.

I'm going to give you even more advice. Like it or not, not everyone believes in God. So bringing up "I work for God" really doesn't make a difference. Judy's post is valid. If everyone worked for free, I agree it would be better world, but sadly, that's not realistic. If you want a roof over your head, food on the table, education, and more, than you can't work for free. Suggesting that people that work for money, expect to be paid for their services, are insulting, is not right.



I feel for you. Here's the thing. You came here expecting an easy fix, and easy answer, and that's not reality. Your issues are going to cost you money, because you need a lawyer, and finding one that will take your case pro bono, well, you'd have more luck playing the lottery. We sympathize with your financial situation, we're sorry that you can't afford a lawyer, but that's the only advice we can give. We're not here to give you money. Trust me, I'm not financially secure either. I can't afford a lawyer. I get it. But it seems like you're expecting someone on this site to fix everything, and that's just not possible. We can't fix your financial situation. We can only give you advice on what to do. If you can't afford to do it, then sorry. There's nothing anyone on this site can do about that.



A lawyer can help you with that. We can't. You posted a question here on how to proceed. You were given advice. From your posts, it seems that you either came here to vent about the unfair treatment of you and your daughter, or vent about not being able to afford to get this settled, but you didn't post for actual advice. You were given advice. If you can't afford to follow that advice, or refuse to take that advice, then there's really nothing we can do. Did you post here hoping someone would say "Oh, you poor dear, how much should I make the check out to?"
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Again, I'm sorry that you're facing all of this.

What were you expecting from this site? That's the question I'm asking. What did you think we could do to help? You've really been given the only advice, the only help, anyone on this site can offer. It's up to you what to do with it, and I can only wish you the best of luck.



How dare you speak for everyone on this forum? Why are you saying "we" my intentions were not to bixtch or vent and I never once asked ANYONE for free services or advice. I definatley wouldn't be on a free site scouting for a free lawyer or money! How dare you suggest that?
You should be ashamed for suggesting I am here for A HANDOUT! Yes I am without funds due to agreeing to be a stay
At home mom so her father could build his business and I worked at home for 3 yrs for his and my daughters future because we were not married I ended up with a rental he put us
Into while I was getting building permits and searching deeds and water lines and all the work that people pay lawyers for I did it all while taking care of our house bills and little girl. I realize it was my choice to agree to such a risky situation. I gave up my dreams and put all my effort into our family and future I didn't expect to catch my daughters father buying prostitutes and buying cocaine! Ww were a family I thought I could trust in his promises to myself and daughter...
My ? Was how can I make sure my daughter is safe and stable and in a healthy loving environment and what does shared parental rights mean as far as his responsibility for transportation and doctors and all that goes with being a parent? And do I just forget all that matters becauae I don't have money? Are you saying to keep my daughter safe I NEED to have a lawyer and money? So are you saying I have to let it go and pray my daughters safe and doesn't get hurt by her fathers activities and lack of responsibilties? I just got my answer.
To keep my child safe and to get the lawyer and father to get me a title as ordered and to follow the judges decision and order I need money? That's really sad that we can't protect our rights and children because of money. I cameherecauae it's a free site and aren't you given free advuce and your time? Not everybody thinks like you say. I think there are people en here who help and others are just obviously wanting to prove they know the law. You sound like a very self riteous person and you act like your defending lawyers and yourself I'm not attacking lawyers jyst stating facts Ty

Was she to do something, or did the judge order her client to do something?

In the former case she could be sanctioned perhaps.
In the latter case he could be held in contempt of court
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Yes she signed the amended agreement and he did not the judge signed as well and she agreed to getting the title to me herself and she came up with the idea of his sister dropping child off and doing the pick ups and it waa for my protection and now ahes saying she meant his sister will come with him to ,make sure there's no issues the judge asked if I agree and I stated as long as she's nice and doesn't start arguing w me in front of my child and that I was afraid of the father so it made sense now his sisters (both) cone with the father so wheres myprotection. Thank you for not slamming me

Are you saying to keep my daughter safe I NEED to have a lawyer and money? So are you saying I have to let it go and pray my daughters safe and doesn't get hurt by her fathers activities and lack of responsibilties? I just got my answer.
To keep my child safe and to get the lawyer and father to get me a title as ordered and to follow the judges decision and order I need money?

Yes, to protect your legal rights, you need a lawyer, and lawyers cost money. That's exactly what I'm saying.


That's really sad that we can't protect our rights and children because of money.

It is sad, but it's also reality. Just because you don't think it's fair, and I don't think it's fair, doesn't change anything. You can whine about how sad and unfair it is, all you want. Unless you can get a lawyer that will take on your case for free, you'll have to pay, and paying means money. That's reality, and that's life.


I cameherecauae it's a free site and aren't you given free advuce and your time?

I read this 10 times, and I still have no idea what you mean. Yes, you came here because it's a free site, and our advice is free. The solution to your problem though, is not always free. Our advice is, but what you have to do to solve your problem, isn't.

The part I don't understand is " arent you given free advuce and your time". I post on this site because I choose to. I can ask questions, just like you. In fact, I just asked a legal question myself, and guess what? I have to pay in order to fix it, just like you do. So yes, I am given free advice. My time, I give my time on this site for free, and my advice as well. If that's what you're trying to say, I don't see how that matters in your case.


Not everybody thinks like you say. I think there are people en here who help and others are just obviously wanting to prove they know the law.

You really don't get it, do you? We did help you. We gave the only valid advice we could, based on what you wrote, or what we could understand of what you wrote (which admittedly wasn't much). The fact is, this is a legal issue. You asked a legal question. If you just wanted to vent about the injustices you face, just wanted someone to say "That jerk, you poor thing, I feel for you" then why did you post in the legal forum? You posted in a forum that is law based. So of course you're going to get legal advice, or as you say "they know the law."


You sound like a very self riteous person and you act like your defending lawyers and yourself I'm not attacking lawyers jyst stating facts Ty

Defending lawyers? LMAO! Thanks! I needed the laugh. I despise lawyers! I'm with you! I don't think people should suffer because they can't afford to hire a lawyer to fix their legal issues. But that's not reality, especially not in your case. Trust me, if there was a way for you to fix the mess you're in without legal help, I'd tell you. You can attack lawyers all you want, I've never met one that won't screw you for everything he/she can. Sadly, unless you know the law, and can defend yourself, you'll need a lawyer. Lawyers don't work for free.

So, the question is, did you come here for legal advice (that's a fair assumption seeing as you posted this in the law forum, family law to be exact) or did you come here to vent and get sympathy and attack anyone that didn't tell you what you want to hear?

I'm going to give you even more advice. Like it or not, not everyone believes in God. So bringing up "I work for God" really doesn't make a difference. Judy's post is valid. If everyone worked for free, I agree it would be better world, but sadly, that's not realistic. If you want a roof over your head, food on the table, education, and more, than you can't work for free. Suggesting that people that work for money, expect to be paid.


I feel for you. Here's the thing. You came here expecting an easy fix, and easy answer, and that's not reality. Your issues are going to cost you money, because you need a lawyer, and finding one that will take your case pro bono, well, you'd have more luck playing the lottery. We sympathize with your financial situation, we're sorry that you can't afford a lawyer, but that's the only advice we can give. We're not here to give you money. Trust me, I'm not financially secure either. I can't afford a lawyer. I get it. But it seems like you're expecting someone on this site to fix everything, and that's just not possible. We can't fix your financial situation. We can only give you advice on what to do. If you can't afford to do it, then sorry. There's nothing anyone on this site can do about that.



A lawyer can help you with that. We can't. You posted a question here on how to proceed. You were given advice. From your posts, it seems that you either came here to vent about the unfair treatment of you and your daughter, or vent about not being able to afford to get this settled, but you didn't post for actual advice. You were given advice. If you can't afford to follow that advice, or refuse to take that advice, then there's really nothing we can do. Did you post here hoping someone would say "Oh, you poor dear, how much should I make the check out to?"
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Again, I'm sorry that you're facing all of this.

What were you expecting from this site? That's the question I'm asking. What did you think we could do to help? You've really been given the only advice, the only help, anyone on this site can offer. It's up to you what to do with it, and I can only wish you the best of luck.
I still can't believe you assumed I was expecting a handout or sympathy by the way what's a Pet expert? Forgive my ignorance does
T mean yr an expert of some sort? Serious?

I still can't beleive you assumed i was expecting a handout or sympathy btw whats a Pet expert? Forgive my ignorance does
t mean yr an expert of some sort? Serious?

I never assumed you were expecting a handout, that was your assumption. I only said that legal representation would cost you money, that it wouldn't be free like you want it to be, and that you've been given the only advice that anyone can offer, based on everything you've written that was decipherable.

You're the one that was outraged that it would cost you money to fix this, and even more outraged that the only advice you were given was to seek legal council, which wouldn't be free. Read back.

Since you obviously only want to start a fight with me, I'll unsubscribe from this thread. If you want to discuss my expertise, start a new thread in the proper forum.

Good luck, and good bye. I'm out. You may want to remember that everyone posting on your thread, is doing it for free, so a little bit of respect for that, and a lot less whining and anger, will go a long way. Just a tip.

Bye now.

It's time to close this - OP wants to vent, not get advice. Once the insults and God start flying the legal questions have been answered.

This is another example when I don't understand why "responses" are allowed to stand, also an example of why the OP is losing. With a temper and mindset like hers the OP has absolutely no chance.

And, yes, I'm defending any Attorney who was forced to deal with this person.

As I believe is the case with anyone who knows everything she should represent herself.