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Summer_2007
Mar 18, 2007, 03:43 AM
I have a relationship for about 1 year. He has 30 years old.From the beginning it happened something that puzzled me. It seemed to me strange that for some times he had stopped in the middle of the intercourse, the reason he had told me: he was tired. I was a little bit frustrated. He told me that the problem is with him, and he feels attraction for me. But in the rest of the time I felt very, very satisfied with him. However the things were getting worse when I was spending some weeks in his house. He had a sort of inhibition of ejaculation. I was upset believing he didn't feel sexual attraction for me.He assured me I was wrong, he wants me, feels desire but when it comes to happen... he is not able to do anything, appears the inhibition.I tried to help him, to stimulate him but I wasn't very lucky. I don't know what to believe. We are thinking to get married. But because of these happenings I don't know what to do. Some suggestions?

J_9
Mar 18, 2007, 06:58 AM
Lets start with the first question and move on from there

1) Is he on any medications?

Medication can cause this to happen.

Summer_2007
Mar 19, 2007, 01:23 PM
No medication. Maybe he doesn't have confidence in himself and there is something affecting his mind.He keeps telling me that everything happens in his mind and she is "the guilty" one.It could be a problem for a man, right?

th13rteenyears
Mar 26, 2007, 02:37 PM
This is not an answer, but don't feel alone. My girl and I are going through the same situation. I was in a bad relationship and have some mental bagage but have the same problem with not being able to ejaculate at times. We have found a few cures that work at times though. Flirt with each other, send "hot" text messages/e-mails or just old fashion letter. It helps set the mood. Try changing routines also, surprises(if they are felt out a bit before hand) can add the right spark to get the deed done more quick. But I believe there is also a medical abbreviation called RED that might be worth looking into. If I remember what it is, or my girl tells me after her shift I will send you a link.
Take care,
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Summer_2007
Mar 28, 2007, 09:54 AM
Thanks for the advice. Take care. Summer