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Heatherrdawnc
Oct 8, 2012, 02:39 PM
Mother told children that if "dad's girlfriend" give's you anything you are to throw it away.

Daughter (6 years old) told "dad's girlfriend" that she was going to tell her mommy that "she loves both of us (girlfriend and her mother) and her brother (7 years old) blurted out "no, mommy will be mad" in a terrified manor.

Keeping phone calls short

Blaming father for calling dss, (when he didnt) and won't let him talk or see kids.

Won't take child support out on father due to her wanting to terminate his right to make his life miserable

"children" can't remember any past happiness with father.

The mother tells children about divorce, and about the father selling there toys or animals (so children will have more negative feelings towards their father)

Mother telling  her 5 year old that the "girlfriend" called her mommy a ""

Mother has put them in counseling due to cover up what she has done to her own children.

Mother told father her phone was cut off for non payment, when really this whole time it was a lie so father could miss time out from talking to his children

Children are scared to go anywhere with father

When father pulls up "un-announced" the mother asks why he's there, and that he shouldn't pop up without letting her know after she sent a email saying "I guess you found better things to do then seeing your kids" when we secretly came up there...and then she complained about him coming"

Father gives gifts for children, and the mother purposely sends toys back through mail with a letter from son saying " daddy why don't you love me anymore, why do you love your other kids more then us" just to hurt the fathers feelings.

Taking out a summons for "custody and child support" a year ago and nothing has been done because the mother "likes the way things are"

Mother threatening the father to move out of state for her kids own protection

Every time father is nice to the mother the children stay on the phone for awhile, if the father does something to make the mother mad the children only stay on the phone for a couple of seconds

Involved children in so many school activities that the father has to jump through hoops just to see children

Father calls at least 3 times every night then will eventually answer the phone.

Complains when father comes up to child's school to give child their birthday present

Won't let children stay with father because she's using excuses that the "girlfriend" has threathened her kids when in all reality it's a lie

Mother told father that the children don't need him in their life, and don't ever talk about him in their home.

Told father the he can't talk or see his kids until he talks to their therapist. 

Having people ride by the father's job to see when he is working... when the mother lives a hour away

Saying kids are angry with father

Saying father is a terrible dead beat father when in all reality father has tried his best to be in his children's life.

Always listening the children's conversation with father

Hangs up the phone before children are even done talking to the father

Children ask father why he don't love them anymore

JudyKayTee
Oct 8, 2012, 03:01 PM
This is a blog, not a question.

Where is this happening and what is the situation?

The only way to know if a Court will consider it alienation and not one parent or the other "unduly influencing the child" is to go to Court and ask. Some of this is the father reading and interpreting the mother's thoughts - and that will not work in Court.

Some of this is going to sound very petty if either party goes to Court. I would pick 5 specific examples and use those - if that is, in fact, what is going on here.

Fr_Chuck
Oct 8, 2012, 03:50 PM
10 of us could say it is, but it is not, unless a court rules it is. Some of this is just normal hatred between exs

And in most a step parent is not liked and often attempts to restrict what a step parent can or can not do is done. Example, lots of court cases where one parent will go back so that a step parent is not the one watching the child, and the step parent has no say in the raising of the child.

So is there plenty of issues, yes, does this need to be back into court to clear this up, yes.

Is a lot of this, just every day issues in many custody battles, yep.