Jul 5, 2012, 06:45 PM
I need advise. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 6 years and we are both 23 years old. We have talked about getting married once we both have stable good paying jobs. We started going out in high school. She has graduated college and I am leaving for the army in about a month. My decision to join was made because I had issues at school and had to get my GED. I've been working on becoming a mechanic but feel I need to step it up since she is working towards our mutual goal of getting married by graduating and has a decent paying job. So I have been training to become a us soldier and will leave in about a month. I know this is the best decision I have made and will be able to provide for us once we do get married. The issue is we started arguing about a month ago about stuff that didn't matter. We kind of just ignored the fights because we didn't want to argue even more which was a huge mistake. So now we have a bigger issue. We basically broke up which I understand. We each love each other but the reason for not fixing the issues is dumb. That caused us to have doubts and drift apart. I know I want to marry her, and she has told me the same. But we have taken time apart to think everything through like what we want in life and if that even means us being together. I honestly know I can't expect her to think of me as a provider right now because I can't provide for both of us. I feel the same way about her as her job isn't the best paying job. Which is why I of course want to better myself and serve our country at the same time. I love her more than any other relationship ive ever had. I will be an army soldier regardless of what happens between us but I can't help being depressed about the whole situation. I've given her space but we met up once to discuss it. She said she needs time to think by herself. I want her to take as long as she needs. She does not want another boyfriend, she is not looking for another boyfriend nor is there anyone else whatsoever. The issue Is focus on work or focus on our relationship. I don't know why we couldn't do both but I respect her opinion. I am focused on training but I know I want to marry her. In fact I planned on proposing on the day I am leaving. Any advise or support would be greatly appreciated, but please read everything. I know this girl has not cheated or done anything wrong she is simply confused. I will propose before I leave for the army but until then I am giving her space and not contacting her at all.