Hello,

I am writing to you guys because i have always been the type of person that has been alone and didnt need to be around people. For some reason, i enjoy having people around me and hope that i would make some lifelong friends but at the same time i dont like the drama and i like to do stuff on my own with peace and quiet. As you can see, i am in quite a dillemma. Nevertheless i thought to myself i have never had many friends in my life and how would i know if i prefer solitude if i havent experienced having friends.

I am currently in University, and i was wondering if there are any general tips on how to make friends for me? I talk to lots of people, in fact i have a few "school-friend" meaning i have friends at school that i talk to and hang out with during school but as soon as when we're finished class we go our separate ways, never hang outside of school and i would like some of those friends that i can hang out outside of school and make some life long friends.

I do not know how to proceed. I would like some permanent friends. Most of the people i know come and go out of my life and i havent had much friends in my life. Furthermore, i am 22, and it wouldnt hurt if i had a girlfriend or at least some dates which i dont know how to start. Any advice would do. Thanks in advance

you don't have to listen too me because i am a little young to be giving you advice but try inviting those school friends over and have a little party or just hang out and if you don;t like that idea the try doing things you enjoy and see if you share interests with anyone and try to find someone who may be quite and not clingy hope i helped :)