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ktownkid21
May 30, 2012, 06:55 PM
Hi,
My ex girlfriend broke up with me as of a 2 month ago, I did the whole panic mode thing where I begged and pleaded to my ex saying I'm sorry and things of that nature. I wrote letters and by accident, bumped into her at school and showed how sad I was about the break up, and in a nutshell she said "seriously stop contacting me and writing me letters, This is not the space I asked for, Move on with your life and please stop contacting me" She basically asked for some space during the break up part but I went into panic mode. Is there anything to do right now to cut my losses or prevent more things to push her away even more.?
She basically said I need space to figure out what I want in my life, also after I showed my weak sad side when I bumped into her she said things like "i have plenty of guys who will treat me right, We can never have a relationship" I Have been giving her no contact so she can heal and have space. ADVICE Please AND GO HARD PLEASE NO SUGAR COATING!!

Fr_Chuck
May 30, 2012, 07:16 PM
How do you say "IT IS OVER" accept it and move on. If this was adult world and not school, she would have a restraining order on you by now for stalking.

You stop contact and move on.

odinn7
May 30, 2012, 07:25 PM
She's done with you. It's time to face this fact, move on, and find someone else. It's that simple.

ktownkid21
May 30, 2012, 08:46 PM
When ex girlfriends want space does that mean she will eventually want to at least be civil at a certain point in the future after she has healed moved on and found some other guy? She asked for space the first time we broke up and it was on good terms I just didn't give her space enough.

odinn7
May 30, 2012, 09:37 PM
There's no way for us to know that. She may want to be friends later, maybe not. Experience tells us though, that it is very difficult to remain friends after a break up. The one that did the dumping is wanting to be friends usually to alleviate their guilt. The one that got dumped finds it difficult to be around their ex without having the same romantic feelings they had before and it winds up hurting them. It's a bad combination.