GF was married 17 years and recently divorce finalized. Was seporated for 2 years. We met online dating and hit it off from the start. She is a great person and has a huge heart. We have made the decision to see only each other.
In the beginning of the 3 months together she would send me texts stating "I miss you" "what are you doing" "wish you were here" etc... but now she has stopped. I have stated in person how I had missed her but she says nothing back.
She has stated that she only wants to see me and me only see her but she still needs her alone time as well as her friends time. She has told me that she is not the type to see someone else while with someone and never has been.

I trust her on this. My problem is I have dated girls and 80 % of the time they have seemed quick to fall and express their feelings. My girlfriend is independent and has a great job but not too quick to drop the LOVE word and as I mentioned she is not sharing her feelings outloud but yet holds hands , etc...

I am crazy over this girl and need to know how not to smother her and get her to where she is expressing when she is missing me and etc ?

I need to give her a challenge I guess? Do I still say I miss you? Do I still act like she has my full attention?

Communication is key my friend, the only way to find out what's on her mind is to talk to her about it. Ask her if her feelings are fading, ask her why she doesn't say those things anymore, tread lightly though, don't be accusational towards her. That's the only way to truly find out. It'll save you from guessing, and making a fool of yourself later on.

I did ask her and she commented that she didn't want me to over react over it and is just wanting us to take it slow have fun along the way. She said she didn't want to rush it just take it day by day.

You've had the answer all along. Take it slow, meeting online is a big deal, she probably wants to get to know the human you before she starts to get overly serious. Take this as a step forward, this means she likes you, and progress is in her future. Just take it slow man, and if the pieves fall together, great.

Best of luck

You need no special strategy, just give her space for other things and keep doing what you were doing and have fun getting to know each other. Relax, as pushing to fast for more just so you can know how she feels about you is insecure, and that's unattractive.

She is independent, and will appreciate you not pressing her to stroke your ego, or constantly reassure your fears and insecurities. You are just dating, so relax and live your life and enjoy what you do without her, and have fun when you date/chat.

Obviously she is not going to be quick to fall, and express her feelings, and that's a clear signal that you better be self confident, and as independent as she is. Relax and trust her, she will share more when she gets comfortable enough. Wait for it!