browneyesgirl27
May 17, 2012, 08:29 PM
Hi guys. I'm having a bit of a problem here...
I've been with my girlfriend for a little over a year now, and have been living with her for months. In the beginning of our relationship, our sex life was incredible. She'd initiate it often; not as much as I would, but pretty close, and our consistency was between 3-5 times a week. She seemed to enjoy the intimacy just as much as I did, gave me compliments here and there on my performance, etc etc. But recently, (and by recently I mean shortly after new year's) our sex life has gone to crap. She's not interested. Her sex drive literally took a nose-dive and crashed. It's hard on me because I get something out of it other than the physical pleasure, and since we're not having sex anymore, I feel like I'm missing something. She won't kiss me either anymore, or VERY rarely does, and that's also something she used to love to do.
Now, comparatively, she's not an incredibly sexual creature; she's not the most sex-driven woman out there to begin with. But even still, she obviously had a healthy sex drive before. I just don't know what to do. I've tried initiating sex, lighting candles, giving body massages, running hot baths, everything, and she's just not interested. I've even talked to her about it a few times, because I'm an honest person and I wanted her to understand how I feel, as well as try and figure out what was going on with her. I'm trying not to whine to her about it all the time. I try not to bring it up, try not to make her feel bad... But it gets really hard. Sometimes it's actually emotionally painful, because I feel rejected. I feel like she doesn't want me anymore. Like I'm not attractive, like I don't mean anything, or at least not what I used to. She says she still loves me, that she still thinks I'm pretty and everything, but the situation is still difficult to handle. Does anyone have any ideas? How do I fix it? I don't need to have the exact sex life I used to... But I'd like to at least HAVE one...
I've been with my girlfriend for a little over a year now, and have been living with her for months. In the beginning of our relationship, our sex life was incredible. She'd initiate it often; not as much as I would, but pretty close, and our consistency was between 3-5 times a week. She seemed to enjoy the intimacy just as much as I did, gave me compliments here and there on my performance, etc etc. But recently, (and by recently I mean shortly after new year's) our sex life has gone to crap. She's not interested. Her sex drive literally took a nose-dive and crashed. It's hard on me because I get something out of it other than the physical pleasure, and since we're not having sex anymore, I feel like I'm missing something. She won't kiss me either anymore, or VERY rarely does, and that's also something she used to love to do.
Now, comparatively, she's not an incredibly sexual creature; she's not the most sex-driven woman out there to begin with. But even still, she obviously had a healthy sex drive before. I just don't know what to do. I've tried initiating sex, lighting candles, giving body massages, running hot baths, everything, and she's just not interested. I've even talked to her about it a few times, because I'm an honest person and I wanted her to understand how I feel, as well as try and figure out what was going on with her. I'm trying not to whine to her about it all the time. I try not to bring it up, try not to make her feel bad... But it gets really hard. Sometimes it's actually emotionally painful, because I feel rejected. I feel like she doesn't want me anymore. Like I'm not attractive, like I don't mean anything, or at least not what I used to. She says she still loves me, that she still thinks I'm pretty and everything, but the situation is still difficult to handle. Does anyone have any ideas? How do I fix it? I don't need to have the exact sex life I used to... But I'd like to at least HAVE one...