I have been going out with my GF for the past 3 months. I can truly say that I love her, she is the only girl I have felt such strong feelings for. She has a busy schedule because of her job, and we don't get so see each other as often as we'd like. I haven't seen her for about two weeks, and I've noticed her attitude is changing. She says that its stress from everything, but she won't go into detail because she doesn't like to talk about it. We continue to talk every day until earlier today, she sent me a text saying.

"I feel sick to my stomach by saying this. But I feel like I just shouldn't be with anyone especially with the state of mind I'm in. I talked to my counselor and it really got me thinking, and I think she's right. I do need time for myself. And I feel like bolting u down with my issues and making u feel like and you don't need this. I need to go back for me. I just hope you understand that this isn't because of you. I'm sorry"

I tried texting her telling her to call me so we could talk, but I haven't gotten to talk to her yet. I tell her all the time that I'm here to listen to whatever she has to say, and I want to help her. Last night we were talking and she said, she thinks we were moving too fast, so I told her that we can slow down, just not completely stop. I don't know what to do, I know she loves me and I love her, I don't want to lose her. How can I make things back to how they were?

The all extended "it's not you, it's me". This happens to all of us, a break sucks, always. But this is a break up nonetheless, stay busy, go no contact, and start moving on. Be thankful that this happened after only three months, the longer you would have stayed the together, the longer it takes to get over it.

The all extended "it's not you, it's me". This happens to all of us, a break sucks, always. But this is a break up nonetheless, stay busy, go no contact, and start moving on. Be thankful that this happened after only three months, the longer you would have stayed the together, the longer it takes to get over it.

This is the thing though, I can't move on. Not without trying at least. There HAS to be something I can do, She has work now, but hopefully will be calling me after that so I'll have more of an idea of what's actually going on, because right now I am completely in the dark.. I have no idea what is going on in her head right now.

I know it's a helpless feeling to be dumped and not really understanding why, but you better just back off and let her have her space to sort things out for herself, and see what happens because I can guarantee any fix you have in mind to get things back the way they were, will only make things worse, and push her away.

Fight the urge to push, and let her take her time with you and decide for herself what she wants, as she has told you she is in counseling for issues she cannot reveal yet, and she has to work through them. I know you want her to share so you can help, but you cannot, at least not now.

So show some compassion and understanding and don't push. Lay back and keep doing your own thing that you were happy with before you got with her, and allow her to take her time. That's exactly what she meant by things going to fast, so don't screw up by doing exactly what she is telling you not to.

In this way, more will be revealed to you later.

No contact and move on with your life