M28B3
May 15, 2012, 02:39 PM
My partner & I have been living together for three years and are both in our 30s. He told me in October he wanted to propose for my birthday in November but felt restricted because he couldn't afford the diamond. I assured him I did not need a diamond but he insisted because of my family and their old fashioned views he needed to have one & would save for it. He even told my mom he was planning on proposing soon and that was last September! So in November I used some money I had saved and bought a diamond. I gave it to him on my birthday and he said he felt sick to his stomach. I sent it back.
Fast forward six months and still nothing. We still live together and his financial investments are constantly being funded into electronics and his work. I'm going to my best friends wedding next week and I last minute feelings are really pulling me down. I want to go alone. I feel like to go with him just makes me sad. I feel hurt by how he continues to string me and my family along. It's one thing to make me wait but another to keep telling my grandparents and parents "when we get married..." I feel like he just keeps talking about it to buy time. How long do I wait? This whole process has made me lose respect for his integrity because now I don't feel like I can trust his word.
Thoughts? Please!
Fast forward six months and still nothing. We still live together and his financial investments are constantly being funded into electronics and his work. I'm going to my best friends wedding next week and I last minute feelings are really pulling me down. I want to go alone. I feel like to go with him just makes me sad. I feel hurt by how he continues to string me and my family along. It's one thing to make me wait but another to keep telling my grandparents and parents "when we get married..." I feel like he just keeps talking about it to buy time. How long do I wait? This whole process has made me lose respect for his integrity because now I don't feel like I can trust his word.
Thoughts? Please!