iam having a very hard time with my girlfriend, we have been together for ten years and i cant believe were still together. I think in my case the reason i haven't left her was because of our childern, were been on a rollercoaster ride these past ten years. Not to say that its all because of her, i know i have issues that i have not dealt with yet, but iam making an effort by seen a psychologist, and iam a in motion towards dealing with my problems. my girlfriend is also seeing a psychologist and were just in the begining stages of our healing. but one thing is driving me crazy, its that my girlfriend is always on the defence, and maybe at times iam in the wrong, but it seems to me thats their is no control on my girlfriend behalf, and when she gets angry, its always bring tears to her eyes, when shes going through her tantrums and i just cant help but to fall into the arguement most of the time because of the intensity, over such insignificant issues. iam not going to give up on my family or my girlfriend, i love them way too much, and thats why iam here just to hear what some of you think of my situation.

When she's shouting or getting angry, take ur self away so u don't shout and talk to her about what's wrong and support her

I was in the exact same situation just that my marriage fell apart bc of it. He was just too messed up and starting cheating... When we went to marriage counseling we learned some stuff I found really helpful. If she's starting a fight walk away but tell her u will be back once u got ur head clear again. The rule is if u leave you the one that has to come back and talk about things whenever u ready. It works very well in the life I have now. Also u guys should consider going to marital counseling it helps to talk about things that u both r going thru with a mentor that can step in when things slip out of hand. I hope things will get better... Just dont give up! Make sure tho that u don't suffer too much!