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Paola2
Apr 30, 2012, 07:47 AM
Good morning everyone! Well, I have been with my husband for 8yrs, but those 8yrs where miserable years. I received only negative things from him. He always put me down, lets put it like this he wanted to manipulate me so I could feel ugly. He did change in some other stuff (ex: not going out with his buddys, stop drinking) but the verbal abuse never stop. It got to a point that we both used to insult each other EVERYDAY. Then I started to work night shift and we barely saw each other. I think the longest was 2 hours in the afternoon and than we use to see each other on the weekends. Time past by I worked over 4yrs, wich i met a guy that was the whole opposite from my husband. Last year on April, I cought my husband cheating on me. It was the most worst feeling ever, but since that moment everything change from my part. I think that the little bit of respect that i had for him was DONE. Our marriage is been from bad to worse. Than he looked for me in January telling me how much he loves me. But I dont love him anymore, sooo after all that has happened I took him back. But I realized that even if he is changing and trying to work this out. My feelings towards him are not the same. I just decided to leave him because Im really not happy. I feel that im drowning in a cup of water. Do you think Im making that right choice? I dont want to regret this later on in my life. We have to daughters, but I dont want to feel that im just thinking only about me.....Please any advise...

JudyKayTee
Apr 30, 2012, 08:01 AM
If you are unsure I would recommend counselling.

No one here knows what is best for you. We can guess, but we don't know.

It sounds like he's abusive - I don't think that's a good thing for your daughters to live with.

On the other side of things - in December you posted you were married but separated and having an affair. http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/he-not-interested-me-any-more-617048.html#post2965364 How does that relationship impact your marriage?