We've been married since I was 16 I got pregnant had a baby now 2 and I'm 19 but I'm so unhappy with him he's so mean and belittles me so much he's so mad all the time and always blames it on me he insults me and is always always questioning my every move I want to leave him but don't know how I don't have a job I'm a fulltime prenursing student I do have my CNA but I don't know if that would bring in a good enough income to maintain me and my daughter till I graduate with a degree... what do I do?should I wait till I've earned my degree?

Where is your family in all this?

My dad is a pastor and he's completley against divorce or separation.

I'm going to somewhat harsh here. So you probably aren't going to like what I'm going to say.

So you had sex with this guy probably when you were underage. The guy agreed to marry you and support your child. Probably wasn't happy about having to give up his life. So this is the path you risked by agreeing to have sex with him.

So I'm going to say to go for counseling, try to save your marriage. If you can't by the time you graduate, then you can see about divorce.


My dad is a pastor and he's completley against divorce or seperation.

Well that explains the marriage. So your father forced you into marriage? You are now an adult you don't have to answer to him.

My dad was a pastor too. (What denomination is yours?)

Scott mentioned counseling. If your husband won't go, will you go alone? You need to have an unbiased person help you sort this out.

I agree with Scott and Wondergirl 100%. You should take it one step at a time with a counselor to help lessen, or resolve these issues and help make it more of a peaceful environment for your child.

The counselor will be understanding of your father's religious beliefs, as well as your own and your husband's. They will assist you accordingly. Good luck!