I have a friend that I've been friends with for 16 yrs and I love her and she loves me too. We have been intimate together a few times, she's not dating anyone. She won't date me though and I don't know why. There is the other woman that likes me, and she likes to take care of me and she is sweet and nice but I don't love her but she treats me so nice. We have been intimate too and she knows where not dating so I'm not leading her on and she knows it What should I do

That is upto you. The girl you like doesn't respond to you and the girl that likes you is not getting a response from you.

You have to take a time off from both the girls and decide what do you want.