Jan 20, 2012, 10:31 AM
My daughter and son-in-law have been married for five years, the last year of which my son-in-law was made redundant, obtained work 200 miles away and commuted back to the marital home each weekend. He contacted my daughter by phone twice daily, but on the one occasion that she tried to contact him he was not contactable all night. There was a further occasion when he angrily asked if she was checking up on him and the marriage was going nowhere. At this time she was seven months pregnant - my daughter conceived three months after the initial forced separation. This was planned by them both. During the pregnancy her husband's personality changed dramatically and when asked if he was excited about the pregnancy said 'I'd prefer it if we were having a dog', suggested the name Lucifer or Damian if it was to be a boy, said 'I thought I was firing blanks' and other worrying comments. My distraught daughter moved back to our home two months before the baby was born. The husband had said he might change his mind after the baby was born. When he was being born he said 'maybe it'll come out with horns' and on taking a photo 'he looks like a little devil'. He only took a week paternity leave which was at the hospital and then for a night plus two days (not nights) at our house. He visited for a few hours on the three or four Sundays leading up to Christmas and there has been no contact since except through his solicitors (my daughter has started divorce proceedings as she is trying to obtain maintenance for her child and herself). He has changed the locks on his property making her homeless and also making it impossible for her to return to her employment after her maternity leave expires. Exactly what access rights does he have? My daughter is worried out of her mind, thinks he could be back on drugs (he is back with his old friends who all used to smoke cannabis and some still do). He has abandoned her and his baby and says 'I want to have an active role in the baby's future'.