My husband and I have been married for 17 years this year, I broke his trust about 3or 4 years ago, (and no not another man) and he said we could work it out. Well recently we have had major changes in our life,death of a family member, and so living arrangements have changed for a while. Long story short I tell him I need him and there is always something else more important,this has been going on for at least 6 months,the wood needs choped,pickup needs worked on,last of huntting,lets take a drive,I got to work on etc. There is always something. WHAT DO I DO? Is there hope? What effects me directly effects another person who does not need the extra stress of my life.

This is a little confusing. You start with a trust issue 3 or 4 years ago- was this issue resolved?

What do you mean by 'living arrangements have changed for a while' due to the death of a family member. Are you no longer living together? How long have you been apart.

Why does this situation for you and your husband, have a direct affect on another person.

When you tell him you need him, what do you expect of him. Are the two of you communicating at all?

I just don't yet see the scope of what the problem actually is.

More information would be helpful.