My names amber and I'm 14 years old, I used to live in stockton-on-tees but because of various reasons I have moved to derby with my mams boyfriend,(husband now) I've lived here nearly 3 years and I still hate it here, I don't get on with my stepdad and now I'm not getting along with my mam either, they've almost kicked me out before and I just don't feel wanted here anymore, I really like this boy at school and his names philip, I've been out with him before and now were really close mates, but the thing is he's a gypsy and my mam&stepdad won't let me near him, I've been grounded since the end of August and they won't let me out of the house because they don't want me near him, he's a really popular lad and eveyones mates with him, I just want to be put into care so I can get out of this house and live life how I want to, I'm sick of being treated like a 6 year old, I'm in year 10 and I'm still not allowed to go out or to parties if boys are there, my parents won't trust me and they always call me a lier, I've got nobody to talk to, I just want to live a happy life instead of feeling like sh#t all the time, please can someone help me? Xxx

Before you make such a big decision sweetheart, I think you should have a proper chat with your ma. Why did she almost kick you out?

I think if you speak with her about how you're struggling, feeling worthless, and , it may show her you're mature enough to date who you like. Just make sure you listen to her responses too.

Don't fret too much about not being allowed out to parties etc. I wasn't allowed to any until I was 18. It's just parents worrying about their child, who is the most precious thing to them, regardless of how you believe they're treating you.

X Dani

She almost kicked me out because me and my stepdad keep arguing and she sticks up for him and not me, she doesn't like philip at all and her&my stepdad won't let me near him, it really does piss me off, 
And whenever I try to talk about it they always have a go at me and take my phone off me,
It feels like I'm not wanted at all here :/ xxx

And being in a foster home, perhaps miles away ( they don't put you just down the street) and of course a foster home may have very strict rules, much stricter than you have now,

Don't expect to have all of the "things" you may have now either, a bedroom and a place to stay, you may be there with several other foster kids.

And they most likely will not allow you out to date at 14, and not out unsupervised and the such.

At this age you are trying to put how you feel about a boy, over your family, they are trying to protect you and you don't love them for it.

How old is this "boy"

True,
But my stepdad hates me, he doesn't want me in his home and he's always punishing me, the thing is my mam doesn't realise it,
Philips 14 aswell-the same age as me, but I really do like him and he likes me, but my parents just won't accept him, they want me to move schools and even they have mentioned putting me into care because they don't want me at home:/ xx

Amber, more than half the teenagers in the world don't get along with their parents and stepparents and disagree over relationships. But as long as they provide your food and shelter, and are legally responsible for you, you have to do certain things they say. They can't control how you think and feel, so be your own person and wait until you are free. Thinking that another place will be better is a dream. You even say 'take MY phone away' as though it's your phone? Who pays the bill, do you? I doubt it. Do you think a foster home is going to pay for a phone? Of course not.
Try to bear with this until you are 18 and on your own. Get some babysitting and dogwalking jobs and save every penny. You will need a lot for that day. It will get you away from the house too. By next year or the year after you can work at a MacDonalds or small shop, and SAVE even more.

Well well well I'm a foster parent and can tell you this. I wouldn't let you hang out with your boyfriend either, you would have to share a room with other foster kids not close to your age, rulers are harder, you have to do chorse, you have a team of people that run your life, about 6 people or more, its really really hard on a child to be in foster care. They really can't leave a life like you can not. It can't be that bad your on a computer. My kids done even get to go onto a computer unless its for school. I'm no of the best homes in the area I live in. kids love my home but if I was a kid I would hate it but I do it in a loving way. However for them they come from a home with a lot of abuse in different ways. Just to have a home to feel safe is what they look for. I think you have that. You just want freedom and at your age I don't think it woulod happen anywhere.