Aug 15, 2011, 06:12 AM
My husband and I have only been married for 18 months and have just had a baby 2 months ago. My problem is we are such a good couple and get along so well, we joke around and agree on nearly everything together, however about 4 years ago my husband(boyfriend) got really drunk one night and did something really stupid, he was living at my families home at the time and jumped up onto the water heater and looked at my 16 year old sister getting ready for a shower. She seen him and he jumped down. I nearly left him but he was so sorry and blamed it on the alcohol! I lived him so much and I new he loved me the same, he had just proposed to me 2 months before. The 2 days before this we had arguments cozni had a feeling he had feelings for her, he denied! He kept msging her and keeping them from me saying he didn't want it to upset me but my sister didn't like it. It took me years but I got over it and my very large close family forgave him. Anyway on the weekend he got drunk at my sisters 18th and that night and msged one of my other sister now 16 asking if she wanted him to set up a mattress next to him so she could keep him company! He was sleeping in the lounge room her friends were in the room right near him and I was in the other room with my baby! There were a few msgs and they seemed abit dodgy but he said they came across wrong because he was drunk, my family are really upset and song believe him! I believed him and took his word but have now found out that he was msging my previous sister I was talking about 1 week before our wedding saying she is so gorgeous and any guy would be lucky to have her and he wishes he could have a chick like her! My mum and dad decided not to tell me because of how close it was to the wedding and they new it would ruin me! He is saying he never said that but I believe my sister and am so upset he thought of her like that and to message her just before our wedding hurts me so bad! But he does love me so much and before I new this we were so happy! I have never thought of my life without him and I want him so bad and I know he loves me more than anything but I feel like I have no choice but to leave as there have been a few occasions of this and because of what he wrote to my sister! Can I stay with him? My whole life will be ruined we have so much together and I'm scared of being without him! I know it would ruin him he really does live me so much he always has made me feel so loved and I do want to stay with him! Help pleeeease!