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BrownDeceit
Apr 12, 2010, 09:47 PM
So recently. I was tagged in some old pictures on Facebook. And I couldn't believe the color difference. It's hard for me to believe that I was ever that dark. I guess I made a gradual transition and people didn't really notice, and when I went to college it was more dramatic, but no one in this state noticed because they don't really know me. Wow. Talk about progress. Anybody else ever get tagged on Facebook and pray that no one sees it? Otherwise they'll see the dramatic difference! :(

Danielle1814
Apr 12, 2010, 11:34 PM
Oh God yes, I haven't started lightening yet but I worry about that all the time. I've Hidden all pictures where I look dark. Lol tagged photos I stopped excepting it, unless the lighting in the picture makes me look lighter than usual.

sara_uk
Apr 13, 2010, 04:37 AM
I hate tagged pictures on face book, I have made all tagged pictures not viewable to anyone but me.

Lightenup2009
Apr 13, 2010, 05:49 AM
Yeah I can't believe I was that dark too - when I c old photos of me in Facebook I cringe! All tagged pics can only be seen by me otherwise it would be too obvious. Lol

Synnen
Apr 13, 2010, 07:32 AM
Okay, PLEASE do not take this the wrong way. I really am trying to understand, and not criticize.

WHY do you want people to not see old photos? Don't you want people to realize how far you've come on your journey to having the skin you want? Or do you just want people to never see that your skin was ever different?

Again--this is me trying to understand, not me criticizing. I know my question is a little rude, but I can't think of a better way to ask it.

glamoured
Apr 13, 2010, 07:39 AM
Oh God yes, I havent started lightening yet but i worry about that all the time. I've Hidden all pictures where i look dark. lol tagged photos i stopped excepting it, unless the lighting in the picture makes me look lighter than usual.


Hi danielle, what are you going to use as product?

Gr.
glamoured.

Violaename
Apr 13, 2010, 07:43 AM
Okay, PLEASE do not take this the wrong way. I really am trying to understand, and not criticize.

WHY do you want people to not see old photos? Don't you want people to realize how far you've come on your journey to having the skin you want? Or do you just want people to never see that your skin was ever different?

Again--this is me trying to understand, not me criticizing. I know my question is a little rude, but I can't think of a better way to ask it.


I think is because people always turn to judge.They will not see it like just having light skin. Most will be like...
"Oh...why did she do that? What a pity...blah blah blah..."
Its just the fact that people who lighten skin are always judged. So to avoid being judged, old photos are kept at bay.That is why we would rather show old pictures in the forum where we know they won't be judged at all... This is what I think...

Synnen
Apr 13, 2010, 08:45 AM
I think is because people always turn to judge.They will not see it like just having light skin. Most will be like...
"Oh...why did she do that? What a pity...blah blah blah..."
Its just the fact that people who lighten skin are always judged. So to avoid being judged, old photos are kept at bay.That is why we would rather show old pictures in the forum where we know they won't be judged at all...This is what I think...

Thank you for explaining it to me.

BrownDeceit
Apr 13, 2010, 09:45 AM
I think that it is so crazy how we all just keep wanting to be just one shade lighter. And then just one more shade lighter. And so on. And so on. I kid you not, before I started lightening my skin, I was like this shade (if not darker. In the summer time I might have been darker than this):

http://www.bargainlacewigs.co.uk/images/estelle.jpg

And now I'm at this shade:

http://www.teairrafans.com/gallery/albums/userpics/normal_001%7E15.jpg

And some people might consider that still dark. But to me... That's progress. And I'm satisfied. I'm no longer in deep depression about my skin color like I was when I was younger. But. I guess I just want to be a shade lighter. Does anyone feel this way?

MAHARANI
Apr 13, 2010, 10:12 AM
I guess it is all about never really being totally satisfied. We always seem to want more. I remember getting so light that someone asked if I was mixed race and yet at the time, I still did not think that I had reached my goal.

Browndeceit that is an impressive difference. Remind us of your current regime and how you are maintaining. I can see why the pics on Facebook are definitely not a delight to see! Who needs reminding...

BrownDeceit
Apr 13, 2010, 11:23 AM
I guess it is all about never really being totally satisfied. We always seem to want more. I remember getting so light that someone asked if I was mixed race and yet at the time, I still did not think that I had reached my goal.

browndeceit that is an impressive difference. Remind us of your current regime and how you are maintaining. I can see why the pics on facebook are definitely not a delight to see !! Who needs reminding ......

Wow! Someone asked if you were mixed? You must have been getting super light. And yeah. Who really does need reminding? And it's crazy how you still thought you were dark, but I COMPLETELY understand. Like I said. It never seems to be enough.

clueless2008
Apr 13, 2010, 07:33 PM
Brown, congrats on your lightening. I can't really see your new pic with your lighter complexion, cause your avi is too small. But, it looks like you got a few shades lighter. Can you post this pic so we can really see the difference.

BrownDeceit
Apr 13, 2010, 09:43 PM
By no means is that me in the picture. Lol. And I would never post my pictures. Who wants to become the poster child for skin bleaching? Maybe when I get home I'll post a picture of the side of my neck and cheek.

highyellow
Apr 14, 2010, 03:19 AM
What is your current regimen Brown? And what product worked on problem areas like knuckle hands etc. thanks

MAHARANI
Apr 14, 2010, 04:10 AM
I think she posted her regime in another link

Here are the details

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/skin-lightening/updated-skin-regimen-464478.html

Danielle1814
Apr 14, 2010, 08:09 AM
hi danielle, what are you going to use as product?

gr.,
glamoured.

Not really sure yet... but I want to make sure I get a good start.
I'm thinking of starting with the papaya soap, & creams.

clueless2008
Apr 14, 2010, 03:02 PM
Brown, I completely understand about posting a pic.

Danielle1814
Apr 15, 2010, 11:08 AM
Same here
If I post a pic it'll probably be of my arm or something.
I'd hate to have my face pop up on Google if someone typed in skin bleaching... lol not cool

highyellow
Apr 15, 2010, 11:44 AM
I think she posted her regime in another link

Here are the details

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/skin-lightening/updated-skin-regimen-464478.html

Cheers

SouthAfricacute
Apr 16, 2010, 03:44 AM
Yep know what you mean.
At my current work place,I wasn't as light then I really got into it lightened from. NC45 MAC foundation, to NC40 MAC foundation
Would like too get to a NC 38 foundation or even 36.

so sexy
Apr 16, 2010, 05:28 AM
I agree

Boricua1
Apr 20, 2010, 03:17 PM
Its' strange with me, some people notice and others don't. I look at old pics and in all honesty I think I spent so much time in and out of the sun I'm not sure what my complexion ever was or if what I am now is just my natural state or lighter sometimes LOL... and in som epics I've seen myself look so light that I'm actually a bit scared someone would notice but maybe those are just lighting cause I never look that light in person...

I also understand what some of you were saying about seeking just one more shade... sometimes I think its not just about lightening its about progress and actively seeing progress just like with weight you may lose weight but most of the times if you have struggled with weight you just want to lose five more lbs even if you don't necessarily think you are fat.

Boricua1
Apr 20, 2010, 03:59 PM
I guess it is all about never really being totally satisfied. We always seem to want more. I remember getting so light that someone asked if I was mixed race and yet at the time, I still did not think that I had reached my goal.

browndeceit that is an impressive difference. Remind us of your current regime and how you are maintaining. I can see why the pics on facebook are definitely not a delight to see !! Who needs reminding ......

this is not really directed to your comment but just regarding the subject of people asking about your race.

I've noticed ironically that the lighter I get the more people I seem to run into that want to point out how black or african I am, (which isn't really a problem for me, but it's just weird for someone to randomly point it out like "oh so you're black right?, i could tell cause this or that...") as if I were hiding somehow... incognegro LMAO:p... and I get this more from people of other ethnicities who are even darker than I am (like many arabs, or indians), and its really strange because I wonder why out of the blue do they feel the need to point this out to me randomly LOL or maybe its just because brown people tend to notice other brown people in a crowd and think "Hey let me say something. (brown power!! LMAO).. oh crap i forgot.. she's a stranger what to say??.. oh yeah... so you're black.. I know a black person... that's cool ok bye??" IDK I never really go up to people and play guess the ethnicity LOL... wonder what the prize is if you win that game?:D

or they tell me I look like some random famous black person who looks nothing like me for no reason... and so off from who I could look like I have to wonder are they F in with me or trying to insult me... Like the other day an Arab guy (randomly)comesover to me and say "hey miss do you know who you look like?.. and I'm thinkin... Please say Beyonce... or Kim K (which will never happen LOL cause i dont look like them but hey whatever)... just name someone hot.... and he says "Serena Williams." which Serena is hot and all, but she's like 6 ft tall, super muscular, and about six if not more shades darker than I am which is not bad but we don't look alike at all... I'm 5'7 kind of fat... I won't lie... I am NOT athletic at all... and I'm not sure what complexion I am but somewhere between tanned Beyonce and Nikki Minaj (I think I spelled it right)... not to mention curly hair... and my face doesn't resemble anyone famous at all at least in my near 30 years on the planet no one has ever really named a star who consistently someone sane could say I look like except weirdos who will say things like... Serena Williams, or (insert random famous black female here) or once I got told I resembled Rosie perez and its not cause we look alike it was because I used to have a heavier spanish nuyork accent when I was younger. LMAO.

Anyway just ranting a bit.

anyway no point in particular and please no one of Arab or Indian decent think I'm saying anything bad about you I just have had that weird experience and its happened on enough occasions to take notice of it (like five or six times from random strangers in the mall or in a restaurant or something).

MAHARANI
Apr 21, 2010, 12:11 AM
Boricua1,

your experience is very similar to what has happened to me in the past. I have, time and time again, had random strangers come up and say things like "this is who you look like", too! I have also found out about people talking about me behind my back and questioning what I do, how I wear my make up, do my hair etc. And I just don't get it. I have never really met anyone else who seems to get the same sort of attention and I have no idea why people seem to want to discuss me or come up and say exactly what they want. It has not been negative comments in general, but I don't get why people feel something just has to be said. And yeah, like you, half the time there is no similarity between me and who they say I look like

YouSirName
Dec 18, 2010, 05:37 AM
As a Canadian Caucasian (nothern European!) male, let me say that that darker woman is so attractive I'd be happy to sign over my house, car, and property in a pre-nup with a woman that lovely. Dear, your dark skin is absolutely beautiful. I like #1