marcelina
Mar 10, 2010, 01:29 PM
Recently my 5 y/o son discovered the difference in being circumsized and not (he is not), this was the start of a lot of questions and exploration on his part. Which his DR assured me was normal. I noticed not much longer that he was "masturbating" usually using a pillow or his bed. Following Dr orders I did not make a big deal about it, we made sure it was not due to anyone touching him or anything he had seen. He simply told me it feels good.
About one week ago his teacher informed me that during nap time she had caught him using a pillow to "masturbate" again (it is odd to me saying a toddler is masturbating) I told her what the Dr had told me and my son and I had a talk that this was private behavior as the Dr instructed me to do. I also provided him with a blanket to take to school as I was informed his actions may be due to him trying to comfort himself in an uncomfortable situation. (He hates his class and teacher... this is his first yr in school)
Two days ago Child Protective Services knocked on my door. The teacher had called them suspecting abuse. I am horrified. I am not sure what to do, I thought I did what I was supposed to by taking him to the Dr, she said this was normal so I did my best to not make a big deal about it and now DESPITE the CPS worker not finding anything wrong and having all the info from the Dr the school is strongly pursuing this. I am at a loss what to do. All family members have been interviewed, no evidence of any abuse has been found. He doesn't not spend the night anywhere or is ever (besides school) not in the presence of myself or his grandmother.
My questions..
1) are there are resources where I can get more information about this behavior being normal?
2)is this behavior truly normal? He has done it once at school but does do it more often at home... usually when he is indeed upset or bored.
3) Should I take him to another DR to get a second opinion?
4)Should I take him to a counselor? (His Dr said no, because this would make a bigger deal out of it which could make him do it more and also confuse him)
The one thing I am sure of is that he has not been abused, or seen anything he shouldn't. I have parent blocks on all the TVs in my house. I am at a loss on how to proceed with this, the thought of losing custody of my son because of a "normal" child behavior is appalling to me.
Side note, in our city CPS is cracking down because a mother recently murdered her two children the day after a CPS worker went to her house to investigate reports of abuse. She found none, and the next day the mother murdered both children. I understand they have a job to protect children... but this is ridiculous.
If anybody has any resources or advice please help me. This is tearing us apart.
About one week ago his teacher informed me that during nap time she had caught him using a pillow to "masturbate" again (it is odd to me saying a toddler is masturbating) I told her what the Dr had told me and my son and I had a talk that this was private behavior as the Dr instructed me to do. I also provided him with a blanket to take to school as I was informed his actions may be due to him trying to comfort himself in an uncomfortable situation. (He hates his class and teacher... this is his first yr in school)
Two days ago Child Protective Services knocked on my door. The teacher had called them suspecting abuse. I am horrified. I am not sure what to do, I thought I did what I was supposed to by taking him to the Dr, she said this was normal so I did my best to not make a big deal about it and now DESPITE the CPS worker not finding anything wrong and having all the info from the Dr the school is strongly pursuing this. I am at a loss what to do. All family members have been interviewed, no evidence of any abuse has been found. He doesn't not spend the night anywhere or is ever (besides school) not in the presence of myself or his grandmother.
My questions..
1) are there are resources where I can get more information about this behavior being normal?
2)is this behavior truly normal? He has done it once at school but does do it more often at home... usually when he is indeed upset or bored.
3) Should I take him to another DR to get a second opinion?
4)Should I take him to a counselor? (His Dr said no, because this would make a bigger deal out of it which could make him do it more and also confuse him)
The one thing I am sure of is that he has not been abused, or seen anything he shouldn't. I have parent blocks on all the TVs in my house. I am at a loss on how to proceed with this, the thought of losing custody of my son because of a "normal" child behavior is appalling to me.
Side note, in our city CPS is cracking down because a mother recently murdered her two children the day after a CPS worker went to her house to investigate reports of abuse. She found none, and the next day the mother murdered both children. I understand they have a job to protect children... but this is ridiculous.
If anybody has any resources or advice please help me. This is tearing us apart.