I am a married woman. I like my husband a lot, we get on really well. He is older than me a lot, I start liking the guys around my age. And I have this crush over this guy for over one year, I know it is just a crush, it does not mean anything, but it affects my life quite badly, how can I get over it ?

I would suggest keeping your distance from this crush of yours and try putting more energy into your husband and your relationship - this may help keep you occupied, and in time, forget the crush.

I am a married woman. I like my husband a lot, we get on really well. He is older than me a lot, I start liking the guys around my age. And I have this crush over this guy for over one year, I know it is just a crush, it does not mean anything, but it affects my life quite badly, how can I get over it ?

The first thing I notice, is the fact you said you "like" your husband? What happened to LOVE?

Second, you are married, act like it. There's nothing wrong with LOOKING at other guys, but you are fantasizing. What is the next step? An affair? No, you should make things work with your husband. HE is the guy you married, so behave yourself.

The last thing you want to do is cheat, and that's where things like this usually end.

How old are you two please?

The first thing I notice, is the fact you said you "like" your husband? What happened to LOVE?

Second, you are married, act like it. There's nothing wrong with LOOKING at other guys, but you are fantasizing. What is the next step? An affair? No, you should make things work with your husband. HE is the guy you married, so behave yourself.

The last thing you want to do is cheat, and that's where things like this usually end.

How old are you two please?

I am 25 and he is older than me more than 20 years. But he is a very nice guy , I have never been that close to someone like him. I love him, maybe not sexually.

I am a married woman. I like my husband a lot, we get on really well. He is older than me a lot, I start liking the guys around my age. And I have this crush over this guy for over one year, I know it is just a crush, it does not mean anything, but it affects my life quite badly, how can I get over it ?

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Avoid all unnecessary contact with him. Since he works with you, keep the conversations as short as possible and only work related. If you are really committed to your current marriage, then focus on that marriage.

Once your feelings for this other man has dissapated, you will be in a better position to interact with him without these romantic feelings getting in the way.

If you're not really committed, then your other choice would be to divorce your husband and try to purse a relationship with this other man.