I am with a wonderful guy, we’ve been together for all most a year and everything is great….except the sex. In the beginning I appreciated and thought he was thoughtful for moving slow with me in the bedroom but when I decided he had waited long enough I got a surprise. He told me no. When I tried to discuss it or bring up the subject he gets mad. We have had sex about twice since (short but great) and no he is not cheating on me. I can live without sex but the fact that he purposely drives me wild but well doesn’t finish the job really frustrates me. I’ve tried everything I can think of romantic getaways, taking charge in the bedroom, not taking charge, dress up, etc. He doesn’t give me excuses just kind of steers away from it. It’s not a religion thing, and it’s not that he’s not attracted to me, we do other things in the bedroom so I know. We are both in our early 20’s and I’m not certain about his sex life before me. At this point I think it maybe “performance issues”. I don’t know what to think or how to get him to talk to me. Please help!

If I were you I would show him this letter. It sounds like you have done everything you can to spice things up except for talking to him :)