OK we need step by step from start to failure.
If after reset you still are getting 4 flashes it is still indicates bad ground. I need to confirm this. You checked the ground wire from the main electric panel to the furnace disconnect then to the furnace ground? Is this correct?
You checked that the circuit board has a good ground? Many times this ground is a wire OR the circuit board screws to the furrnace metal. Did you check this ground also?
The reason is that the ground is a very important for these units and a bad or intermittent ground will cause problems that you will never figure out if the ground is bad. That is why the ground has to be confirmed GOOD all the way from the panel to the furnace and then to the circuit board.
In your initial statement
i have a red(hot) wire coming in and a white (nue) wire coming in.i don't see a ground wire coming in.any suggestions on what to do from here.thanks,greg
You said you did not have a ground so this also bothered me as now you seem to have found one?
Also any time you have had a short circuit like melting wires it can cause other problems down the road. We are dealing with sensitive electronics here.
Also check to be sure the neutral wire is going to the neutral on the furnace and the power wire is going to the power wire on the furnace. You would not believe how many times a reversal of these two wires have caused problems. Sometimes they will work for awhile then fail until the wires are placed correctly.
One last item. Post the exact chain of events from start up to failure. IE call for heat,inducer fan on,etc.