the first time i had sex it did not hurt at all. the first month or so we used condoms. now im on depo provera. now when we have sex im really tight and its hard for him to get in. he has to push really hard to the point where it hurts him and me. its like im closed. if he kisses my neck for a little while i will start to open up. even if im really "turned on" its too tight until he starts on my neck. i dont understand and its not that fun when we are trying to have sex. my gyno said it could be something involving the birth control i really forgot what she said. and she told me to try lubricant. but my bf doesnt want anything on him down there. i dont know what to do. once he gets in, im fine, it doesnt hurt anymore. its just that part that really hurts.

Maybe you need a lot more foreplay than you thought.

Sometimes it takes women a long time to open up to men, (pun intended). just relax, dont worry about it and concentrate on the sensations of his hands on your body.. maybe that will help

thank you. ill try that next time.

try a lubricant it may help

maybe some kengel exercise will help

my bf doesnt want to try a lubricant. he said putting stuff on him down there makes him very uncomfortable. he said that he didnt mind the challenge cuz it was kinda like a build up. but sometimes it can be frustrating.