I have been reading some of the posts and I was wondering if anyone has any ideas about emotions and posting.

In my last post titled "!" (by accident I might add), I was very emotional when I wrote it and more or less just wrote because I was so angry at the time. Maybe it just feels good to know I am not alone out here, I don't know. I have read some that have been editted because when they wrote their posting when they too were upset. I have read a few postings where people just want to "vent". In response to some of these postings people are obviously defensive or agitated.

I can understand the the responses are to what was posted. Is there no way to ensure that if one is posting when in an extreme emotional state, maybe one should say that somewhere? Even if it's with the icons or whatever. The only other alternative is to wait, but sometimes a person really is looking for support in the moment.

I just thought this might get more of the responses you are looking for instead of critisism. (The last responses I received were fine BTW).

Any thougths?

Hi,
If one were to start off with....
"Hi, I am mad, and forgive me for what I might say; I don't want to offend anyone, but........".
I have read a few questions that started off with a short explanation as "I am madder than...". That lets me understand the emotions involved in the question, and not to criticize the Asker. It's best to answer the question the best I can, and let it go.
Other times, things are explained, then a question asked, and it's very hard to wonder how a person could get themselves into such a situation!
It takes a lot of "stand back" in answering something like that, and just answer. I can't always do it, but at least try.
Regardless of what anyone says, everyone has, to some extent emotions. Some just don't show them until something very drastic happens, such as a death, or near death in the ER at a Hospital. I have seen that from some I know; break down and cry when you would never expect they even cared.
It's very good to show emotions because it means that person is not a "fake", putting on airs, and trying to hide everything. I would much, much rather be with someone who means what they say, even if they get emotional. I don't care for those who don't mean what they say, or sometimes say different things, trying to "beat around the bush", and have you really guess at what they mean.
Guess I'm old fashioned, and I see good in every person I have ever met; until they show me differently. Believe me, some have really shown differently.

I have been reading some of the posts and I was wondering if anyone has any ideas about emotions and posting.

In my last post titled "!" (by accident I might add), I was very emotional when I wrote it and more or less just wrote because I was so angry at the time. Maybe it just feels good to know I am not alone out here, I don't know. I have read some that have been editted because when they wrote their posting when they too were upset. I have read a few postings where people just want to "vent". In response to some of these postings people are obviously defensive or agitated.

I can understand the the responses are to what was posted. Is there no way to ensure that if one is posting when in an extreme emotional state, maybe one should say that somewhere? Even if it's with the icons or whatever. The only other alternative is to wait, but sometimes a person really is looking for support in the moment.

I just thought this might get more of the responses you are looking for instead of critisism. (The last responses I received were fine BTW).

Any thougths?

Usually I can tell when people are upset by the way they type and the things they say and I take that into consideration when I reply. I have empathy for others and try to treat them in a dignified and respectful way. I would not want to say such hurtful, thoughtless things such as "get a life" or "grow up" because that's not helpful.
When I posted my rant, in retrospect I would have been better to have prefaced it with one of the things fredg offered.
I agree, we'd like to feel as if we are not alone.
You are not alone :)

Sometimes it takes a lot not to go off but as I become used to this format and realize most people come here for help or advice and helping is the main thing so I try to put the judgement thing aside and give the most honest advice I can think of. The thing is to help not hurt, but sometimes a little tough love or hard truth is needed in my opinion.:cool: :D

Hello, Well I totally lost it on this one person who was asking about his 14 year old daughter how to kick her out of the house. Before he gets so mad that he is going to beat her and do something to her. The very same person on another post actually asked a question about how he can force his 14 year old pregnant daughter to have an abortion. So two different posts, same person but what he fails to mention in one post that his daughter is pregnant. So put two to two together equals very different advice. I lost it. It was very hard not to respond to an abuser. It was hard to keep my cool. Same as shunned when he first posted his angry post and rant. His attitude pretty much came out as if he was king ---- and that we all needed to listen up or else he would come after us. It does not work that way. It is hard not to get emotional in my responses to posts like that. I for one will not tolerate it. As far as your post you were very clear about what you were feeling and we all understood it very well. Even with being emotional, your very respectful in the way you write. It is hard sometimes not to get emotional. It all depends on how the asker words it, how I respond. We all have emotions and they all come out differently on postings. As talaniman said sometimes tough love or hard truth is needed. Even if the poster does not want it.

I think that it should be okay to ge emotional in a post. If you react honestly then the person asking the question can see how people really react and maybe apply this to his life. "If a stranger thinks this way, how will my friends and family think?" I think flying off the handle is not good but sometimes if we say something with a little tact, the same point can be received. I think talaniman has a great point. If I may put into my own words, I think he was saying that people come here not really wanting to offend anyone and just get honest advice from people. I don't think everything should be sugar coated but I think if given any details we should be considerate of them. For example (not that this happened), I don't think that lecturing a 15 year old for getting pregnant is really what she needs.

I have remember reading those threads about the dad with the pregnant 14 year old. I don't know how you couldn't have gotten emotional about it. When something goes strongly against our beliefs it is hard to look at it with fresh eyes. I think that it's okay to disagree because we are all very different people and we come from different experiences. I think that's what makes this website great and makes it work.

For those of you who regularly follow the new posts I just wanted to say one thing.

IT SERVES ME RIGHT FOR EVER STARTING THIS THREAD! LOL

A question comes up where I really have to think before I type. Just a little test I suppose. Isn't life great that way. LOL

Good thread..

You all know that I usually am not at a loss for words, but there have been at least three threads that I have read, and NOT responded to.

My emotions got the better of me when the askers did not even bother reading any of our advice, and insisted for some reason or another that 'we' did not get the point. It's cases like these that I opt to stay out of it.

All in all though, each and every one of us can be proud to be a part of it knowing it benefits many.

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