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Jimmy_Jazz
Nov 17, 2008, 08:58 PM
so ive been smoking for about 5 years and its taken me a while while but ive realized that its something im really not interested in continuing. im in my second year of college so it crops up quite a bit. its gotten to the point where im considering cutting out all my friends that do smoke. i still like my stoner buddies but they dont seem to understand why im no longer interested, in fact when i decline a session they seem insulted and generally make really tough for me to be around them. i was just wondering if anyone else has gone through this and how they handled the situation.

Fr_Chuck
Nov 17, 2008, 09:02 PM
yes, normally you are going to have to stop hanging out with them, esp if they are making it hard for you.

rockerchick_682
Nov 17, 2008, 09:04 PM
Well first of all, good for you! Believe me there're always new friends to make and friends that get angry when you make your own decisions aren't the best ones to have anyway.

twinkiedooter
Nov 18, 2008, 08:36 AM
Oddly enough you have found out that you are maturing and able to see the kids at play and don't want to partake anymore with them. Good for you!! You'll find other friends to replace the stoned ones shortly. Just keep doing what you're doing and you'll find more friends (and better friends, too).

BMI
Nov 18, 2008, 08:50 AM
I've had the exact same thing happen. Years and years ago I just did not enjoy the effect anymore and so I just stopped smoking. At first the guys were surprised but eventually they respected the decision. They still smoke everyday and when I go over it's not big deal. I can't beleive I'm saying this but my bud's seem a little more mature than these dudes.

Look at it this way, when a person stops smoking some people will be envious and try to poke fun. It represents a coming of age or a dedication to a healthier lifestyle thatsome have a problem seeing b/c they feel inferior tothe person that can resist temptation. This is NOT true for everyone, those that support your decision yet continue to smoke are those that are happy with what they do. Those that pressure you or make fun are those that see something in you they wish they had at this time.

Hope it helps.

southerngalps
Nov 18, 2008, 11:08 AM
from my experience...it was easy to quit when i broke up with my boyfriend that did smoke and met my boyfriend that didn't.

i had been wanting to stop because i was worried about my health. with it always being there, it was hard to quit.

so i do think hanging around people that do smoke is not good if you are trying to quit. Good luck :)

KBC
Nov 18, 2008, 02:15 PM
GOOD FOR YOU!!

When a drug buddie quits the others feel like they are less than for not quitting,make sense?

They would rather hang out with the familiar,the active users,the rest of the gang,you have shown you are above the influence,way to go.

NOW, move on.

Find the collage kids who don't do this behavior and make new friends,these people will probably be better friends than the last group you were with,and have a better memory of the last,,,ummm,,month or so.

Hope your serious and don't fall back into the old ways,

KBC

mikedem7
Nov 18, 2008, 06:58 PM
make new friends