Hi, confulsed!
Greetings and WELCOME to the site! I'm so sorry about your loss! I just moved your question that you had posted in Introductions to this topic area so that it would get the most exposure to those who are best able to answer it.
It will get noticed more in this topic area then it would have where it had been placed. Introductions is for people to introduce themselves and we try to not ask questions there.
We would appreciate it if you would return to Introductions sometime to tell us a little about yourself though, if you would be willing to do that.
Again, I'm so sorry for your loss! In case you would like any help with dealing with your loss and grieving, there would be some very caring and wonderful people in the following topic area that can be accessed via the following link
http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/bereavement/
Thanks!